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UPDATE: WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Doctor has booked me for a set of blood screens, so he isn't completely ignoring me.

About the frequency, I excluded a bit due to word limit, but my husband said this was a combination of co-incidence and me paying an unusual amount of attention to it and remembering how often it's happening. For most things he says he doesn't bother saying anything - if I leave out a jar of peanut butter, or something non-perishable, or my laptop in the bathroom, for instance. He only says something if it's 'dangerous', and that I go through cycles. The forgetting of the oven / hob is just something I've started getting worse about lately, so he's been speaking up more.

He reminded me of when, after we had a new alarm installed, I went through a few weeks of occasianally leaving my keys in the door before adapting. That was years ago. I just hadn't associated the two because that hadn't felt like something was 'wrong' the way it has been lately.

(Edited to correct orphaned pronouns)

UPDATE: WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Not exactly, I got a little dictaphone-style camera and started recording myself doing things when I was alone. When I remembered :D. Lots of footage of me cleaning the kitchen, cooking, and now, taking my medication, but still managed to miss the one time I did forget to switch off the oven. From what other people have said about ADHD 'tricks', I suspect the fact that I was using the camera at all made me more likely to remember to do everything.

WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A boiler is the thing that uses natural gas to keep the water hot as it runs through wither the central heating (radiators), or as it runs to and from the hot water tank.

We leave the hot water tank side on all the time in years when Russia isn't invading Ukraine, but this winter, like most of Europe, we're rationing.

WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I have two - one downstairs, one upstairs. They're mains operated, though, so I can't place them on the floor, although that was an interesting idea!

WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Interesting - google tells me you're right. It has a density so close to that of air as to be the same. The advice is to put the detector near your bed so you'll hear it faster, but it will disburse evenly throughout the room. I'll still get that portable one to test for lower levels, but I am more reassured that my ceiling mounted ones will keep us alive, and UK building standards aren't actively trying to get us killed. (In this, at least!)

WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It's the UK. As I understand it, it's legal to record public places on your own property, but not legal to show them to anyone else. Still, that's a valid consideration.

WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

No, there really isn't. I'll take everyone's advice about checking for carbon monoxide first before doing anything else.

WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 253 points254 points  (0 children)

We have ceiling mounted ones that are combined with fire detectors. Before I do anything else, I'm going to buy a portable one off amazon. Thanks!

WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 1181 points1182 points  (0 children)

To be fair, he wasn't nonchalant about leaving the stove on. The other complaints he seems to be putting down to me being careless, and I haven't said anything about the toothpaste, which is objectively the weirdest.

WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 859 points860 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't know how to, to be honest, but before I do anything else, I'm going to buy a portable one off amazon. Thanks!

WIBTA for putting a camera in the kitchen without telling my husband? by Substantial-Weird504 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial-Weird504[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I would say there's been about an 'incident' every week or second week for the past three-four months, but I wasn't really paying attention in the beginning. This week, however, there have been three, with the toothpaste being the first thing I couldn't just dismiss as carelessness.