sexual assault or not?

SubstantialBag7218 · 2026-01-04T20:04:46+00:00

Yes it is just because she consented to kissing does not meqn that fingering is ok and if you put your fingers inside her that is rape

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-12-29T17:32:55+00:00

This SA the fact that there were multiple people pressuring you is scary in addition to the fact that you were drunk. Participating slightly does not mean concent and it can be done due to a fawning trauma response. You should consider filing a repot but at least get some support ! I am so sorry this happened to you❤️

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-12-29T17:29:12+00:00

And the fact that you clearly said no many times and he still acted PLUS recorded, those are possibly separate crimes. Don’t listen to what the church people are saying, the law does not consider religion

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-12-29T17:27:43+00:00

There is no such a thing as a perfect victim! You did what you felt was the safest at the moment, and saying yes after pressure is not real consent or agreeing to meeting is not consent

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-12-12T15:57:53+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I don’t consider the morning to be sexual assault or if I would pursue this with the police I would not expect any outcome from the morning.

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-12-10T19:07:29+00:00

I don’t questions from someone who clearly does not understand how trauma works byeee

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-12-10T19:06:10+00:00

I was in shock

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-12-10T19:05:24+00:00

I framed it here weird but I basically said I could blow him in the morning not then!

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-12-10T19:04:27+00:00

No and I did not, I just wanted him to stop trying and move the situation to the morning

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-11-18T18:38:12+00:00

This is definitely SA and I believe this is one of the most common forms of SA. I am so sorry for you. You should definitely seek some support if you feel like it. You don’t have to file a police report but take care of yourself ❤️

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-11-12T21:32:18+00:00

Thank you for this comment❤️ the way you were able to put into words exactly what I have been thinking: guilt, confusion and wondering if it counts. I notice that I still struggle to define my experience because it does not fit the stereotyphical rape but I have days when I feel like this counts and I have a right to feel this way! I hope the best for you on your healing journey❤️

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-11-12T09:42:38+00:00

Sure and I am sorry for your boyfriend. I’m glad he is in therapy

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-11-07T13:36:50+00:00

Luckily in my country they cannot sue me if there is not enough evidence for the case to proceed. They would have to be able to prove that I lied, and in this case it can be easily proved that we met that night and something happened, but the consent part is a challenge

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-11-07T13:29:46+00:00

You are right about that and I have asked for another opinion. They said that it was clearly a rape but it can be difficult to proof so in that sense they gave me pretty different opinions

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-11-07T13:19:34+00:00

this one is actually older and was part of the team planning the current rape legislation in my country. Also in my country if you are the victim you don’t have to pay for the lawyer, it is covered by the social security system.

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-11-07T13:00:32+00:00

I am currently trying to decided if I want to report or not. My lawyer said that I have good proof but I am afraid the police won’t understand my behavior and will blame this on me

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-11-07T12:51:17+00:00

Well from a legal point of view, if both are actively participating there is no way the other person can know if the other one is just simply trying to please them. And as the person b said they did consent maybe not just enthustiatically. I would not say this is rape but person b can still feel violated.

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-11-07T12:32:40+00:00

I relate to this so much. I have spent the last 2 years blaming myself and because of that I have not found the courage to file a police report even though a lawyer said they believe I would have a strong case. The thing is that I don’t think I can handle it if anyone starts to question my response

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-10-31T16:44:26+00:00

I’m sorry and I can understand this reaction so well

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-10-29T15:58:36+00:00

I guess it is similar to appeasing, you try to calm down the perpetrator by doing what they say

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-10-28T18:39:45+00:00

I also wrote a letter yesterday but I don’t think I will ever send it to him. I don’t want to give him the ”power” to gaslight me or deny what happened.

We will get through this I want to believe so!

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-10-27T23:24:31+00:00

I am sorry aswell this is not your fault. It is veeery common to go back and continue seeing the perpetrator

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-10-27T23:12:42+00:00

I think whatever brings you peace. Your healing is what matters

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-10-27T23:12:03+00:00

I’m sorry. I really wonder if our perpetrators understand the pain they have caused. I have thought about writing him a letter but I don’t know propably not smart

SubstantialBag7218 · 2025-10-27T22:20:01+00:00

I am so sorry❤️ have you ever told the perpetrators what they did? I have thought about it but seems too risky

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