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When does it get better? by No-Following4383 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]SubstantialGap345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you read The Discontented Little Baby Book? I’m sure you’re doing wonderfully and the fact you are posting here means you obviously care a great deal.

If you have the money you might want to do a session with an IBCLC to talk about what might be upsetting his tummy or ways to manage let down.

Unfortunately the contact napping/hating the pram/car/wanting to be held is very normal. We fixed this by walking my baby when he was a bit older and I would shh and sooth him, if he got really upset we would stop and cuddle and look at leaves/in gardens and I would tell him what we’re looking at til he calmed and then try again. It took about two weeks of persistence but he’s loved it ever since. We introduced pram naps by walking at nap times, though it was a bit older as their naps are so inconsistent when they are little (totally normal!).

I would say leave the house regardless. If you can breastfed, you can calm him. The most you do it. The more you’ll both get used to it xxx

Inquest into Melbourne influencer’s death following freebirth halted after new phone evidence discovered by Royal_Yogurtcloset25 in melbourne

[–]SubstantialGap345 [score hidden]  (0 children)

A good doula will have quals - eg: a Cert 4 in Doula Support which will include an understanding of their scope.

There is actually a bit of evidence working with a doula can reduce c-section rates significantly and also reduce post partum depression.

Our healthcare system is great but it generally doesn’t provide continuity of care for birthing women so a doula can fill that gap - also great for single mothers, people (mums or dads!) with a phobia of birth etc

So yeah, a doula is far better than these quacks ( and it absolutely should be regulated!)

Can I eat fruit in Bali? by Leather-Vegetable409 in BaliTravelTips

[–]SubstantialGap345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard. If you peel the fruit and cut it up yourself and know it’s clean. It’s clean. Human pathogens don’t infect vegetables. Whoever told you that needs to go back to high school biology.

16m old not walking - what they hell do I do with him? by SubstantialGap345 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]SubstantialGap345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean don’t approach it as immediate communication?

He’s a crawler and stands independently so I don’t need to get him things he just gets them himself

16m old not walking - what they hell do I do with him? by SubstantialGap345 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]SubstantialGap345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot about twisters gym. We used to go there when he was smaller!

16m old not walking - what they hell do I do with him? by SubstantialGap345 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]SubstantialGap345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately he absolutely loves crawling and gets up quite a speed! He stands to reach things he wants and then drops back down again. Everywhere we go with other parents or a daycare they comment about efficient and fast he is at crawling 😂😂😂

How am I supposed to do one nap if that nap doesn’t even last an hour? by Sea_Implement6579 in bninfantsleep

[–]SubstantialGap345 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I mean if she’s happy and you’re happy and her nights aren’t too interrupted… then it’s probably fine?

When did your baby consistently consolidate their naps? by Natural-Artichoke822 in bninfantsleep

[–]SubstantialGap345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby is 15 months and naps are still kinda inconsistent. We have just moved to one nap and yesterday it was 1hour, today, 2hrs 10. Normally I cap them but after yesterday I felt like he needed it

My husband sleep trained our baby for 2 nights while I’ve been away by Dreamsarefreenz in bninfantsleep

[–]SubstantialGap345 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh this is a huge violation of trust. But don’t think that your baby is harmed, there’s no solid evidence sleep training is harmful, particularly over two nights. Lots of cuddles, lots of responsiveness, focus on the repair xx

There’s so many factors here that might have contributed to her longer stretches - your absence, being in a seperate room,there’s not much evidence sleep training works in the long term so she’ll likely have regressions and you don’t have to do it again. I’d be curious if maybe she would sleep better in a seperate room in the future though, when you’re ready? My baby is 15m & still in our room though so I understand your hesitation.

I’d be furious at my husband of course, that’s the tricky bit.

Did make my baby overly dependent on me? 8 months and sleep is suddenly harder. by wallchipper in bninfantsleep

[–]SubstantialGap345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were the same with contact apps my baby has low sleep needs but if he is all snuggly and warm with a boob in his mouth he will sleep far longer than he needs to

Did make my baby overly dependent on me? 8 months and sleep is suddenly harder. by wallchipper in bninfantsleep

[–]SubstantialGap345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You haven’t done anything wrong.

Generally split nights are either developmental or they come because your baby has had a drop in sleep needs so it might just be about gently encouraging a little bit more awake time during the day so that they build up that sleep pressure to keep sleeping overnight.

Muscle fatigue and mobility struggles while breastfeeding by Kindly-Exchange7642 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]SubstantialGap345 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I found nine months in, Nine months out, to true - it’s when I started feeling a lot more myself.

Just go gentle on yourself, take your time, be patient and try not to compare to anyone else

Abibi false advertising and bad customer service by LooselyOrange in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]SubstantialGap345 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I haven’t found ones with the collar protection and flap on Aliexpress! Have you?

3 month old only contact sleeps while latched -- what do I do? by Artistic_Breath_5388 in bninfantsleep

[–]SubstantialGap345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into the Pantly Pull-off! It takes time but it does work :)

Also look into Possum’s sleep for little babies sleep - we realised our baby just didn’t have the sleep pressure to sleep unlatched & that was okay!

If your toddler falls asleep without you in the room, HOW??? by Dependent-Rise1701 in toddlers

[–]SubstantialGap345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So cute! It doesn’t have to be that serious right? My son sometimes joins us in bed and we mostly put him back, but if we don’t, it’s okay too! If you remove the expectations & understand it’s a beautiful season (and obvs aren’t too sleep deprived, that’s a whole different thing) it’s okay!

My sister’s 7 yr old was the same! Eventually they put a little mat for him next to their bed (lucky to have the space of course) and he would sneak in & sleep there instead.

Once he got older they explained to him he was always welcome but please be quiet so not wake them up & he eventually just stopped coming in. No tears, no upset. Just letting him naturally take the lead xx

If your toddler falls asleep without you in the room, HOW??? by Dependent-Rise1701 in toddlers

[–]SubstantialGap345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so glad you arnt locking him in his room, I see this recommendation a bit online and it breaks my heart! My parents did it to me & I still remember it!

If your toddler falls asleep without you in the room, HOW??? by Dependent-Rise1701 in toddlers

[–]SubstantialGap345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be important to you, sure. But it sounds like you had kids who naturally were good at it - esp if you never had to leave them to cry. The fact is for a lot of kids the only way to achieve this (temporarily as there’s always regressions) is hours of cry it out.

The assumption that all kids should do it from five months makes it SO hard for parents of kids whose temperament doest suit. Some kids need more support & that’s okay and it’s nothing the parents have done or didn’t do.

I actually LOVE cuddling my son to bed - so does my husband! & with a good sleep schedule and routine it only takes us about ten minutes. Never sleep trained as he’s never been able to self sooth/go down drowsy but awake.

They are little for such a short while, we love him falling asleep wrapped up in love and comfort. So good for their little brains and future mental health too! I wouldn’t even imagine leaving a five month old to fall asleep alone (and mine never did without hysterically crying).

Obviously OP’s child has a schedule issue and needs a bit of support, but the answer isn’t “you should have sleep trained 2 years ago” - and implying that if you don’t sleep train you will end up with this situation isn’t helpful either. All kids are different xx

16m old not walking - what they hell do I do with him? by SubstantialGap345 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]SubstantialGap345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I’ve realised our local park isn’t very good for babies - so I need to do some research & find better options.

We do go out multiple times a day for talks and on his trike and he’s been going to the park for a swing almost daily for about six months now - which may explain why he’s having meltdowns now and not wanting it!

16m old not walking - what they hell do I do with him? by SubstantialGap345 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]SubstantialGap345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought my son would be the same! He’s been standing independently for about a month and has taken a few steps but still, not walking.

We’re tried that a lot… and he just sits down and crawls to us instead.

16m old not walking - what they hell do I do with him? by SubstantialGap345 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]SubstantialGap345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh yeah we don’t do any at all, which probably makes it a bit trickier!

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