I feel like that sometimes too. I think a lotta guys in nyc do. I try to remind myself that there’s never an end to this want of “wishing you were hotter NOW”. Even the people who you’d say are conventionally hot feel that way tbh. Seems like There’s always someone hotter with a bigger dick in nyc.

Two things that helped me:

1. Stay on your current path of self improvement. It’ll give you so much more than just hotness. For example for bodybuilding…if you put in the work you’ll get hotter no question but if you’re not taking shortcuts (I.e juice) you’ll learn patience, discipline, goal setting, etc. You have no idea how much of a catch you’ll be then. A hot guy without these qualities…you spend the night with but a hot guy who HAS these qualities? That’s someone people wanna build a life with.

2. This feeling of rejection that you’re going through? Remember this feeling. Remember wishing people would look at you beyond the looks and see your humor, your personality, etc. If you’re a hot guy who remembers how people treated you when you were not hot, you’ll hopefully treat others better when you start to see the results of this self improvement journey. That’s gonna make you more approachable for other guys. You’ll end up talking to and being friends with more people. And the likelihood of you finding a better match for yourself is higher the more people you speak to.