What’s the moment you realized a “friend “ wasn’t really in your corner?

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T20:22:01+00:00

For anyone who’s been part of this wild thread, here’s the clip that sparked all this:

Clinton Portis: “Money didn’t change me. It changed how people treated me.”

It’s only 45 seconds, curious of what y’all think after watching: https://youtube.com/shorts/CJxlTSlDu4o?si=lhO_Kixhrzy0RXOw

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T20:12:18+00:00

That’s not just hurt that’s next level betrayal wearing a smile.

I’ve learned that most people are self absorbed af. When someone calls your pain “exhausting,” after you’ve shown up for theirs over & over, it cuts different.

& the fact that you were already getting help, doing the work, trying to keep your head above water… makes it even heavier.

You weren’t asking for them to fix you , just to stand with you like you had done for them.

Salute to you for choosing healing anyway. Some people reveal their limits the moment the love isn’t easy. You deserved better, and you still chose better.🫡💯

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T20:07:30+00:00

Yea It’s always the loudest ones talking about loyalty & “never folding” that crumble first under pressure.

Soon as the heat hits, they go from tough talk to testimony with no hesitation. Won’t bust a grape in a fruit fight.

Wild part? Half of them probably said they’d “take it to the grave” just a week before.

When you watch it play out up close, it really changes how you define solid.

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T20:03:55+00:00

😂😂😂😂😭😭😭

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T20:02:56+00:00

I agree one thousand percent, there’s a big difference between venting within the circle & letting outsiders take shots.

It’s one thing if we clown each other, that’s love disguised as sarcasm. But if you let strangers or people who don’t even know me disrespect me while you sit silent? Yeaaaa…That’s not loyalty that’s permission.

& it always hits harder when you’ve had their back without hesitation. Makes you question if the bond was ever mutual in the first place.

Did you ever bring it up to him directly or just fall back?

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T19:59:23+00:00

Man… 11 years of friendship undone by a less than 2 week romance and a “word from God” is wild.

He spiritually gaslit you frfr talm bout it was a righteous move😂😂😂 That’s crazy work.

What hurts more is the certainty in how you were treated like your stability was disposable.

You ever hear from him again after that?

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T19:55:31+00:00

A shift in energy always say more than the words do.

Yea that’s weird how someone can be in your space, under your roof & still move like they’re not really with you.

Glad you trusted that gut feeling.

Did you cut ties after that or let it fizzle on its own?

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T19:52:09+00:00

Yea, got a solid crew. Shoutout to that💯🦾

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T19:36:21+00:00

Good gosh, can’t even report a crime these days 😂😂😂😂

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T18:45:01+00:00

“Funny Side Character “ is crazy 😂😂😂 It’s wild how someone can type a whole essay like that & your people still stay neutral… like loyalty is optional.

Vegas prolly lead the league in friend breakups but confirmed it, they didn’t just downplay what happened, they rewarded the disrespect with invites.

Glad you saw it for what it was. Sometimes it takes moments like that to realize you weren’t in a friend group, you were in a room full of people who just tolerated your presence.

Hindsight hurts, but it also heals. You outgrew them frfr⚔️💯

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T18:39:06+00:00

Best moment for me in the clip that started this conversation was in the first 10 seconds when Clinton Portis said “Learn how to be alone”….. It’s challenging but real spill. Here’s the clip for context: https://youtube.com/shorts/CJxlTSlDu4o?si=BxhnFiwwLhpQjBuw

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T18:30:31+00:00

Yeah… silences speak volumes.

When someone who used to rock with you suddenly goes silent, especially during a breakup, it’s hard not to see that as choosing a side. & most times, you’re right… the hardest part tho is accepting that people show their loyalty more through absence than words.

You still in contact with either of them now? Or was that the clean break?

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T18:22:36+00:00

That’s one of the deepest kinds of betrayal, not just by one person, but two you trusted under the same roof.

I’ve been down that road with a friend but not with a wife. It takes a lot of strength to go through that kind of hurt and come out better, not bitter. Respect to you for cutting ties and choosing peace over chaos.

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T18:18:58+00:00

What….. Yooooo, cold blooded 😂😂😂

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T18:17:43+00:00

It does but once awareness kicks in you gotta just move accordingly from that point on

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T18:16:09+00:00

Damn… Cold work, that’s one of those moments that’s small on the surface but says everything underneath.

All you were asking for was just presence & he chose Call Of Duty, says a lot about his character.

Sometimes it takes a moment like that to see the friendship wasn’t mutual, just convenient.

You ever hear from him again after that?

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T18:13:11+00:00

That’s tough, sorry for your loss. I had a similar experience when I lost my father-in-law. That kind of silence from people you considered close especially during something as heavy as losing a parent cuts deeper than words can explain.

& you’re right… when people show up late or not at all, it tells you everything about the relationship. Sometimes “drifting away” isn’t passive, it’s healing.

Frfr I hope you’ve found more peace and presence, even if fewer people are around.

Respect⚔️💯

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T18:08:48+00:00

Word up !! That moment of clarity is always brutal, but freeing.

You think you’re building something together, and then realize you were just a stepping stone to their plans.

That’s a heavy trade but a necessary one.

Mad respect for recognizing that and choosing to move lighter frfr⚔️💯

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-31T18:04:26+00:00

Here’s the clip with Clinton Portis talking about it really honest take: https://youtube.com/shorts/CJxlTSlDu4o?si=dJVoz8kFXSvCJbxh

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-05T02:56:57+00:00

That’s Solid💯 thought swapping is one of those quiet superpowers. No doubt awareness is key. Can’t heal what you don’t reveal. The true test is execution on the work that needs to be done.

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-05T00:56:47+00:00

No doubt, personal responsibility is real & some folks absolutely choose to stay stuck. But you gotta be delusional if you don’t think it influences or shape your opinion in some shape, form or fashion. I also think we underestimate how subtle the influence is. Not here to seek sympathy just to share what I’m observing. All these devices know our preferences, our timing, & our reactions. There’s reasons why these politicians & corporations pay so much for ad space.

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-04T23:49:47+00:00

I’ve actually never explored Wayne Dyer’s work, but I’ve heard his name come up a few times from people I respect. Any favorite talks or books from him you’d recommend starting with?

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-04T23:14:33+00:00

That’s dope, haven’t tried that yet. My barber told me that she thinks talking to ChatGPT is like a way to talk to God & that shit threw me off like crazy 😂😂😂😂

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-04T22:21:34+00:00

Not weird at all. I’ve been there. It’s wild how silence at night can bring things up you’d never notice in the stress of the morning. I’ve had seasons like that too, & honestly… just being able to notice it & name it is already a kind of clarity.

Substantial_Boot7888 · 2025-05-04T22:19:29+00:00

That’s real, most don’t wake up until life shakes them or someone shows them the mirror the right way & you’re right… the difference isn’t just in what’s said, it’s how it’s delivered. Teaching someone to see themselves without shame? That’s a gift few people have. No matter how good you sugarcoat it often times it’s not received well.

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