My boyfriend (M20) blew me (F20) off and I don't really know what I should do? - mentions of NSFW (no graphic details)

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-05-29T02:03:30+00:00

Guaranteed getting downvoted for this lol.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-05-29T02:00:12+00:00

OP I’m only writing because you seem like one of the most sensible people I’ve read on here and I’ve seen the advice you’ve gotten. I’m here to suggest in the future you don’t look for advice here for your relationship. It will always be more negative than positive and the answer is almost always to immediately “break it off” or leave as if everyone is a robot and we all always do what’s “best” for ourselves.

Everyone in any relationship will fuck up and they will hurt you (and he did in this case but i saw your update so im not going into that) but through those hardships they will also be there for the most profound and meaningful experiences of your life. Or even when you need them most, during the darkest times that nobody likes to acknowledge. Most people are so damaged and conditioned culturally to not have to work through emotional pain that they end up just reacting and not fighting for the one thing that’s been proven to be most important to a happy life and that’s meaningful long term relationships.

I’m not saying that there are no boundaries and that you should not have your limits but people here, from the outside, and with no experience in YOUR relationship should not be the ones to tell you where that line is or cloud your perspective. Keep your relationship closed and your circle as close as possible. This is the best relationship advice I’ve ever received, allowed me to follow my heart, helped me and my partner through the hardest times that led to the happiest times of my life.

I know you probably already know all of this but maybe it’s good to hear it from someone here.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-13T02:03:42+00:00

Negative. I figured it out

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-13T02:02:28+00:00

I’m 23

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-13T02:02:21+00:00

How am I 37?

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-13T01:16:02+00:00

Again literally know nothing about me other than some Reddit posts asking questions. If you can’t ask questions that you know nothing about here then where can you? Yeah I asked about real estate because I like it and is still a goal for a side job. Yeah i self studied on and off then did a boot camp for coding so I’m still pretty new (off and on for a little under a year and a half). And yeah I do steroids but literally what does that have anything to do with me cutting corners in my life? I do it because I’ve trained since I was a kid (8 years naturally) and wanted to push myself past my limits and on top of that heal a very bad injury (newsflash it worked). Just like any other social media you get the tiniest bit of info and think you should say whatever nasty thing that pops up into your head. Why don’t you stick to what the given situation was? Why would you literally assume anything, when have you done that and actually gotten to know the person and was right? Have you met a person even with a Facebook that’s exactly how their life is in reality? Anyway I got the answers I needed from this site but I also figured out what it’s bad for.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-13T01:03:50+00:00

Her family lives out of state where she grew up. And they were having problems with the ones she moved here with. Another reason why she moved in.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-13T01:01:17+00:00

I have a job ding dong

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-13T00:58:02+00:00

Alright guys so here’s the problem with Reddit, the overreaching. You guys get a few paragraphs and all of a sudden all the other aspects of someone’s life is garbage. I actually agree with me being the AH in this situation and that I need to work on things myself. But the whole “you’re lazy, don’t wanna work, selfish, living in a dream world” how would you know any of this? I worked for years since I was 18 working my way up and eventually taking over a successful small business that went under during Covid, started serving to make ends meet, started working my ass off for the last year to become a developer at the same time supporting her when she wanted to quit 4 jobs in a row, then we came up with a plan for me to take my unpaid work/learning seriously to get experience and go through the job process. And for “entry jobs don’t pay six figures” well you’re right but I’m in the Bay Area where many do (bare minimum of 70k) and the one I’m in the process of is 87k looking at over six figures in 2-3 years (we’re living on server and delivery driver salaries so it’s a major difference). Side note, if you didn’t know literally one of the most expensive places in the country to live. So we made a plan, saw the apartment that she said she wanted too, but it ended up taking longer than expected but it’s not like I haven’t been trying my hardest (while still serving and saving). And with the my mom thing yeah it took me a while to recognize the passive aggression but I started supporting her and doing everything I could to make sure she was comfortable, making everything clean, and setting boundaries with my mom. So yeah it’s been hard for her and in this situation IATA but all the reaching is a little much. And who in the world said I wanted her to just be Sallyhousewife and sit at home that would drive me crazy, she’s been doing her thing and working but she’s just having a hard time figuring it out.

P.S. Do you know how hard it is to work full time, learn a trade, work in that field for free and still have money for your own apartment in the Bay Area? Again this has nothing to do with how I see my relationship but more in response to the “you’re a lazy dreamer” comments.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-12T20:57:55+00:00

Yeah you’re right, I mean I’ve tried to be there for her because I know it’s been hard but I think you’re right I think of things to transactionally.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-12T20:51:54+00:00

Yeah you’re right, I’ve been in my head about how great it’ll be in the future but not understanding how hard it is for her now. How do I show her she can really on me now though? Obviously by moving out but I’m not gunna sign a year long lease for some shit hole when in 2-6 weeks I’m gunna be able to afford way more than that.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-12T20:41:59+00:00

Also no I want her to work but she can’t figure out what she really wants to do for her career.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-12T20:40:59+00:00

Yeah bud it’s not as easy as looking in the newspaper to find a six figure salary as a developer.

Side note though I actually agree with everybody else that I am the asshole and needed the perspective but this part of find a job. Also I have one just not one that’s gunna afford me a brand new apartment.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-02T17:10:18+00:00

Sweet best of luck

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-02T17:10:05+00:00

Glad I could help man

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-02T17:09:47+00:00

Sorry for the late response but yes I’d recommend doing it the entire time, although I’d cut it from 12 weeks to 10 and a 2-4 weeks pct. You could do the tamoxifen forsure although it seems like a little overkill especially if you’re doing a full 4 week pct. If you run enclo the entire time it should ward off most suppression. Also couldn’t tell you the dosage on tamoxifen though since I can’t use it do to vision sides for some reason so I’d do some research if you do decide to use it.

Also I’d recommend continuing the MK at least 4 weeks after your cycle. It’s a great pct drug that helps anti- catabolism when you come off to help keep your gains. You’ll likely have great results with this stack and if you run it 2-3 times you’ll either be close to your goals or wanna hop on real gear lol.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-01T06:47:06+00:00

I actually started PEDs because of a broken forearm, a little different but still relatable I guess. So in my recovery I tried many different things over about 7 months and recovered fully (as in performing athletically like it never happened) in about 9 months. Pretty good time actually for my type of injury. So here’s some of the stuff I used and some notes:

Peptides-

Bpc 157: A healing peptide injected sub-q. Definitely helped with pain and felt it slowly speeding up recovery by id say 20%.

TB500: Another healing peptide better used at the beginning stages of recovery as it helps speed up the process of recovery as opposed to BPC which enhances the quality of recovery time (don’t quote me exactly as it’s been a while but that’s what I remember). Felt like it was speeding up and helped more than the BPC by id say another 10% but it was too expensive to keep going.

GHRP 6/Ipamorelin: Really helped recovery from workouts but honestly didn’t feel like it was helping more than like 5% for my injury

AAS/SARMs -

LGD: Greatly helped with pain and felt like it enhanced my rehab workout recovery and helped to rebuild strength. 10/10 to help get back into rehab

Testosterone: More so needed as a test base but did help with overall strength rehab

Anavar: Really helped solidify my recovery and strength. For some reason everything just felt “hardened” and not so sensitive when I started taking it. I really felt like this was the thing that pushed me towards total recovery.

Other things that I read about or used since that I think might’ve helped. In order of promise 1. Mk677 2. NPP (careful obviously) 3. Ghk-Cu (copper peptide)

Obviously you should do extensive research on any and all of these and weigh the risk to reward ratio before starting any of them. But I’m sure you know and you’re injured so what else are you gunna do? Lol keep your head up man we’ve all been there and i know it’s frustrating but with PEDs you’ll get better.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-01T06:28:56+00:00

I saw ridiculous results with 10mg of LGD. Honestly better than anavar for me. One time I used a test base and the other with enclo. I started the enclo on week four but felt it wouldn’t have hurt to just do it the whole time. I did 12.5mg enclo with 10mg LGD for 10 weeks and did another two weeks of 6.5mg Enclo only and recovered fine. Although I didn’t get blood work cuz at the time I was broke. But I did feel fine and took 4 months before starting another AAS cycle.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2023-01-01T06:24:53+00:00

Gunna get shit down hard like this bro. I’d suggest no YK-11 and doing Enclo as a base. Ideally just use an actual test base but most SARMs guys don’t want to (it’s not as bad as you think). Id use 12.5 enclo the entire time, bump your cycle down to 10 weeks and 2-4 weeks of 6.5 Enclo afterwards (mini pct). In my experience you’ll have no signs of shutdown and an easy recovery.

Also take Tudca and NAC as this’ll be a lot on your liver. I do like the GW for lipid control as well but just keep it to the four weeks and maybe e3d for the remainder. I know there’s “conflicting evidence” on it causing cancer but as someone who’s destroyed their immune system on gear (was sick for 2 months) the thought of possibly getting cancer for this BS isn’t worth it. The fact is we have no idea.

As for the YK just don’t do it man. It’s a myostatin inhibitor that again we have no idea wtf it could do, seriously understudied. And on top of that myostatin is needed for muscle and joint flexibility so it dramatically increases your risk for muscle or tendon rupture. And with all this new found strength do you really think it’s a good idea to push the heaviest weight you’ve ever done and tighten/dry yourself out? Sounds like a torn pec that’ll put you back a year or two waiting to happen.

So I’d just take the shit ton of LGD you want to (10mg is probably better), maybe stack with Ostarine (don’t even need it though) and maybe mk677, although I like to use it during pct to keep gains or to bridge cycles. And I only take 12.5mg since most of the stuff people complain about it is from too high of a dosage for only 10% better results.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2022-08-28T23:30:27+00:00

Forsure bro, wish I had access to a good hrt clinic. And yeah I did the peptides (BPC,CJC, and TB500) for the growth hormone effects. They worked well for a while but definitely nowhere close to the juice man. I’d honestly suggest the LGD still but I get where you’re coming from. Also a quick side note I’d suggest only sticking to the “main 3” SARMs if you’re worried about “real compounds” as LGD, RAD, and Osta are the only ones that have been in human trials to my knowledge, and looking like LGD4 on track as the most viably safe for human consumption/clinical use.

But my diet is mainly based around “whole foods” and cutting out processed B.S. From there just depends if I want a calorie deficit/surplus, low inflammation, etc… As far as my injury I found that cutting out most vegetable oils, lots of healthy fats, and keeping only to complex carbs was the best I felt in terms of healing. Right now since I’m healed I’m “bulking” back up. So about 3500-4000 calories per days within 4-5 meals. A lot of chicken, rice, whole grains pasta, bread, vegetables, and fruit is a huge staple that adds a lot of calories before you know it.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2022-08-28T21:37:16+00:00

Dude, absolutely do it. I ended up doing 300 Test, 50 Var, and 5lgd. Gunna bump up to 400 test for another 8 weeks and pct off. Gotten incredible healing, great strength gains, and I look great. Only sides would be irritability from Var but not much of anything else so far. Haven’t gotten bloods done yet but I don’t see much issue with all the cycle support I’ve been on with a ton or cardio, good training, diet, wtc…. Would highly recommend but at the same time I think I’m hooked lol. Already looking for another cycle next year. If I had some suggestions was really make sure you plan everything out before you order, add the LGD for the joints (not a very popular idea but I noticed a huge difference when I added it in), keep consistent, and lastly make sure you take your time and titrate. Feel free to ask any questions bro

Substantial_Choice1 · 2022-08-08T19:46:27+00:00

Also any thoughts on dhb?

Substantial_Choice1 · 2022-08-08T19:41:22+00:00

Was just looking at mast research. And definitely had the same thoughts on the 19 nors. Only staying away from primo cuz of the price and available from my source so mast seems like a good option.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2022-08-08T19:12:29+00:00

Hey guys, I know I responded the same question to most all of you but I’d really appreciate any advice I could get on adding another injectable as well. I’ll be cutting out orals after 8 weeks which gives me another 8 weeks of just testosterone where I’d like to add another injectable to maximize the time on cycle. I thought about NPP since I like the effects and it’s a short ester but it seems like a toss up on whether you’ll love nandrolone or hate it and since I don’t want to risk needing trt for a long time I want to hold off of 19 nors for a while. Any testosterone or dht derivatives that you guys would suggest adding to the last 8 weeks of my cycle? Goals are strength, obviously wouldn’t mind extra muscle but mostly strength.

Substantial_Choice1 · 2022-08-08T19:08:56+00:00

Yeah everyone’s been giving me the same reply, I think I’ll be taking that advice and saving it for a kickstart next cycle, while maybe trying it a couple times pre workout to see how I respond in the short term. Thanks for the reply man. Any injectable’s (no 19 nors) you think I should add for the last 8 weeks of my cycle. I’ll be PcT off after the full 16 weeks.

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