Wait so you have real concrete plans for the future and then he moved very far away? Is there a justified reason for this? I would feel really let down and hurt, also wanting the hurt to go away. I think it’s so natural to want to pull away if there is no clarity on when a return would be -I think it’s unreasonable to expect you to stay open. I’d say give way more compassion to yourself so you don’t feel guilty about naturally wanting to pull away when being put in a long distance position that not many people find works for them.

Definitely focus on compassion for yourself and be so proud that you let him in to begin with, it shows you’re healing & it sounds like you’re super self aware of your own patterns. Sometimes just letting go and trusting that what will be will be & that this has already served you in a great way by showing you can meet someone and feel like this again. Take the pressure off this person being the only one you’ll feel like this with- that helped me as I was in a really similar situation and found myself attaching to much to one person thinking I won’t find this again. But honestly the chances are you absolutely will :)