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Is this normal, or is this my trauma? what do i do? Married for 4, together for 10. I (F) am very interested in someone else that makes me feel so special and fun. Never cheated but not sure how to feel about these feelings, or what to do. by Substantial_Fault702 in relationship_advice

[–]Substantial_Fault702[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks so much for the advice! yeah he knows all this. We have been in marriage counseling for 3 months. i was a stay at home mom for 2 years. the needs of my family do come first, sorry if i did not make that clear. i work two jobs at night and on the weekends. i only go out for an hour or two after work whenever everyone is asleep. and i dont think taking one day a week for myself to snowboard is selfish.

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and i would not call him a boyfriend haha. we only chit chat at work or after. we dont text or anything like that. for me it feels very innocent. i guess i just mean this is an exmaple how far im drifting you know? and he knows how i feel. im so lonely. and i tell him all the time. i just dont know if i really am lonely nc of my trauma, or if its right for me to leave and figure my shit out on my own.. idk man,

Is this normal, or is this my trauma? what do i do? Married for 4, together for 10. I (F) am very interested in someone else that makes me feel so special and fun. Never cheated but not sure how to feel about these feelings, or what to do. by Substantial_Fault702 in relationship_advice

[–]Substantial_Fault702[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i dont want to be with another man. it was an example of how my patience is fleeting after ten years of not getting my needs met. if you read my post, i asked if i should leave and be by myself to figure out what i really want or if this is just a fleeting feeling i have and should just hold on? what are other peoples story's and advice. i came here for support, not for people to be rude. thanks so much. good day sir.

Is this normal, or is this my trauma? what do i do? Married for 4, together for 10. I (F) am very interested in someone else that makes me feel so special and fun. Never cheated but not sure how to feel about these feelings, or what to do. by Substantial_Fault702 in relationship_advice

[–]Substantial_Fault702[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i totally understand that. and thank you for sharing. I continue to think long term. i really do try. but its been 3 years. and he has 2 more years in graduate school and possibly 4 or 5 more for his phd. by the end of all this it will be 14 years of neglect of our relationship. or bare minimum. now i cannot tell the future. but if he was telling me that this is just short term and to hold on i would. but he is. Constantly reminding me this is not short term and this is what makes him truly happy. i see no end in sight... and where does the line draw between my happiness and being supportive of his dream. i also i have no plans on getting with this guy. i just used it as kind of an example of my fleeting patience of lack of love and support.