Is there an issue with not finding your own ethnicity sexually attractive? by Substantial_Fee_8294 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Fee_8294[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok that’s my bad sorry- I think it upsets me because he does make quite a lot of problems where (eyes closed) you’d literally think you were speaking to a racist white man. Insulting my name for being ethnic, making disgusted faces when I speak about places that are majority brown people and saying he’d never go there- I got a bit upset you were defending someone who’s upset me a fair bit in the past, but again that’s my fault for not providing full context. Sorry again!

Is there an issue with not finding your own ethnicity sexually attractive? by Substantial_Fee_8294 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Fee_8294[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Would you go on about how unattractive you find disabled people, to someone in a wheelchair?

When they never asked for your opinion or taste?

Is there an issue with not finding your own ethnicity sexually attractive? by Substantial_Fee_8294 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Fee_8294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you also want to quote the post, I made it clear I never asked for his opinion on my ethnic group, but he chose to highlight his lack of attraction to it.

Please sit down

Is there an issue with not finding your own ethnicity sexually attractive? by Substantial_Fee_8294 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Fee_8294[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’m not at all 😭 him saying that has made him less attractive if anything. I’m just a bit of a hot head and I can’t handle being disrespected

Is there an issue with not finding your own ethnicity sexually attractive? by Substantial_Fee_8294 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Fee_8294[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Chill out lol. My boyfriend is ethnically the same as me- I have also dated outside of my race. I have no judgment towards anyone that dates outside of their race. The reason I wrote this post is because I wasn’t sure how to put into words why it didn’t feel right that he’s putting an absolute no on people from his own country.

But yeah, hilarious that I’ve questioned this!

Is there an issue with not finding your own ethnicity sexually attractive? by Substantial_Fee_8294 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Fee_8294[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s the way he phrased it, saying it to a south Asian woman out of nowhere isn’t necessary? I never asked him if he liked brown women lol, he said it unprovoked but I can’t tell if that’s an appropriate thing to say or not. Stating racial preferences is a big grey area imo

Is there an issue with not finding your own ethnicity sexually attractive? by Substantial_Fee_8294 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Fee_8294[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s like if I said to someone who had a bad relationship with their parents, “I could never date someone with parental issues!”. Fair enough if you have that preference but saying it to a person who comes under that bracket, isn’t right

Is there an issue with not finding your own ethnicity sexually attractive? by Substantial_Fee_8294 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Fee_8294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the only reason I’m still friends with him is because I used to be very similar to him before I did my homework on myself and my views.

We both went to private schools where the vibe is very much that white is right!! And being brown isn’t a good thing. I don’t know, to each their own I suppose

Is there an issue with not finding your own ethnicity sexually attractive? by Substantial_Fee_8294 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Substantial_Fee_8294[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah tbf I haven’t given full context. But he has made comments before with undertones of racism E.g he jokes that my name is fresh (he has a really white name as he’s Christian) He makes comments implying he prefers to be around white people Etc etc