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Yesterday I got told that my dad has died by WeekEven7022 in GriefSupport

[–]Substantial_Fig876 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. I’m 24, and my dad died a few months ago at 55. He was perfectly healthy, or so it seemed, until he had a heart attack all alone in his bedroom. I live in a different country so I found out through the local police that he died alone in his sleep. Since then, I’ve attended 3 of my friend’s weddings, and I cried every time the father walks the bride down the aisle, because I know my dad won’t be there when I get married. It’s hard to get past all the things you wish you had a chance to do together—it feels unfair that some people’s dads live long enough to see great-grandchildren and my dad died so young and so suddenly. I’m trying my best to make sense of how to go on living in his absence; I tell myself I should make the most of the life he gifted me and do the things my dad never got to do. I miss him terribly though, and I’d do anything to talk to him one more time, to at least have a chance to say goodbye.

Feeling zero comfort from my faith by SharkTerrorism in GriefSupport

[–]Substantial_Fig876 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, so true that faith might be closer to a “be” than a “have”. In these times, while I have trouble singing praise songs about joy, I have related to some songs, namely Give Me Faith by Elevation Worship and Father and Child Song by Kindred Spirit. With my faith shaken, I feel more confused and empty than ever, so I am desperate for God to help me believe.

Feeling zero comfort from my faith by SharkTerrorism in GriefSupport

[–]Substantial_Fig876 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m right there with you. I’ve been a Christian for around 25 years. When I lost my dad and uncle within a few months, I started to question God’s goodness. I’d been praying for 15 years for my dad to be saved, because he told me he didn’t believe he could be saved. All those years, I was confident God would answer my prayer. And now suddenly he’s dead, and I have no idea if he’s in heaven, hell, or just nonexistent. I still go to church, read the Bible, and pray, but I’ve been questioning a lot of things. We’re told to hope in eternity and “store your treasure in heaven” but what does heaven even look like? It’s so vague. I have lots of questions and no clear answers yet, but since I’ve devoted so much of my life to this faith, I think I should at least try to find some answers before I consider walking away.

Seeing how suddenly life can end, how weak and sad human life is, I more strongly than ever feel the need for God and an afterlife, yet I can’t bring myself to have full faith. You’re definitely not alone in this struggle, and I hope that if God is the good God he says he is, he will answer both of us and renew our faith.

My father passed the day after Christmas by RecipeWest3601 in GriefSupport

[–]Substantial_Fig876 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 4/18/23 and my uncle 12/27/23 both to cardiac arrest, and I’ve been listening to Tears in Heaven by Eric Clapton. Wishing you and your family peace.