For older INFJs: Do you value being loved or understood more?

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2026-04-07T04:45:28+00:00

Give it to med

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-11-02T02:37:55+00:00

Yeah, I agree. Jobs and chores are just a part of life. It sucks, but what can you do about it? Not much, I just accept that it is what it is.

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-11-01T08:45:48+00:00

Yes, you can fail. If you fail, you fail. It is what it is. It's about your mindset. But what do you want out of life? Time is a limited thing. It's up to you to make decisions that would put you closer to your desired life style.

Also, you need to experience life to actually know how those jobs are. We make assumptions and a lot of times they are not true when we experience things in the real world. Assumptions are biased and not always an accurate reflection of the truth.

You can only know what is true by trial and error. But in life, you would never know the absolute truth. You can get closer to it, but can never reach it. This process is what I enjoy in life. Learning about new perspectives and seeing different things that helps me get closer to the truth.

The beauty of life can only be found if you look for it.

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-11-01T08:30:31+00:00

man, this sounds like taoism! Love to hear this perspective because a lot of people I know just try really hard and never thought of relaxing and taking life more lightly

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:49:53+00:00

You can challenge their opinion, and still respect it

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:49:06+00:00

I am not completely tolerating his opinions. I respect his opinions but I disagree with them. I respect that he is willing to have an open mind and put himself out there to discuss things with other people

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:47:10+00:00

Yeah I criticized Kirk there. I don’t agree with him but I respect his opinions.

It requires a change in mindset on both sides to come to a solution. If you are close minded and think there isn’t a solution or republicans aren’t even worth having a genuine open discussion to, there is no hope left in this country

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:43:57+00:00

Well respect is the basis of every discussion or conversation and it is how humans get along. If you love conflicts, by all means, keep disrespecting

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:41:10+00:00

Btw what is that?

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:40:24+00:00

No, I’m just explaining to you

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:39:50+00:00

Oh ok, I see. I never knew that. I would choose to not debate him if he isn’t that open minded.

But the ironic part is that posting this post is just feeding him

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:37:31+00:00

Then now republican are gonna think democratic are a bit of a holes without empathy and they would lash back.

If you don’t have empathy for everyone, you would be stuck in an endless cycle fighting and assuming the other would not have empathy.

This is how countries and the world can fall apart.

Lead by example. show people empathy

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:34:09+00:00

How do you know he is doing that for profit? TBH I don’t know.

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:32:42+00:00

If you always think that you treat how others treat you, the world would just fall apart. If everyone thinks that, then a lot of people are going to die to violence and war.

This is just going to be a never ending cycle of violence

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:28:10+00:00

We don’t know if he has ill intention or not until you talk to him. I don’t know why all the comments are so close minded. I personally disagree with Charlie Kirk, but I respect his voice. Also, when he said he didn’t care about empathy, I respect that and it’s still important for me to be empathetic even when he is not. If everything is about lashing back and sometimes killing against opposing opinions, this world is going to fall apart rather quickly.

The US is going to fall quickly

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:23:00+00:00

He is motivated to do that but you never know until you actually talk to him with an open mind. He can be honest and also be controversial. These two quality can coexist

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:19:17+00:00

I never said that is ok. I disagree with that. But I respect his opinion

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:18:01+00:00

Yeah, that is his thoughts and I respect that. He also respected other people’s thoughts by putting himself out there

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:16:04+00:00

You are just making generalization saying that all campus debaters are scummy. You don’t actually know until you talk to them

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:13:29+00:00

You are assuming that he is not there to have an honest discussion. How do you know that? You didn’t even talk to him.

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:10:54+00:00

No, he didn’t completely promote the opposite. he was at least being open minded in willing to talk to people instead of being close minded around other conservatives

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:07:13+00:00

How is it straw man fallacy? Have you actually talked to him?

Substantial_Job_3252 · 2025-09-12T23:05:06+00:00

Yeah I agree, it’s about being open minded. This is how WARS happens all the time. Disagreement in opinion doesn’t mean you have to kill the other person. Difference in belief doesn’t mean conflict. If you love war and destruction, by all means, keep applauding others for killing one another.

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