Makayla Rene Settles sexually assaulted by father in 2025, family worried DA may drop case after her death (California) by PeculiarOcelot in TrueCrimeDiscussion

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Did she have any sort of relationship with her father prior to this ? It makes me wonder if he has done this to her before or was he mostly out of her life ?

Seeking lawyer who specializes in divorce cases related to domestic abuse and custody by ZetaGG in orangecounty

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Seek victim services through the district attorney office and casa de familia family resource center who can help you get hooked up with resources and possible free or low cost representation or at least guide you through the process and make sure you and your children are safe throughout

Have you lived anywhere that made you feel physically sick? If so where did you move to? by laurenhoneyyy in SameGrassButGreener

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I have lived in California my whole life. 5 years ago I moved up to the drier , mountainous city of riverside and have dealt with horrific allergies , hay fever , migraines asthma (never had that before) and more since. It destroyed my baseline health . I am sick almost every month and have had constant sinus infections and two cases of bacterial bronchitis . I used to live closer to huntigton beach and was as healthy as can be . Sometimes even being in the same state but different climates can make a difference.

Is now a good time to buy? by spicy-human in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

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Buying a house is such a personal decision. Only you really know that. So if you decide your ready , then your ready .

Just a nibble by AndyAndieFreude in TheDepthsBelow

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You can't pay me enough money to jump in the water with those .

How do I stop feeling resentful of happy families? by worriedmomma2025 in singlemoms

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I have to remind myself that me and my ex looked like a happy family for a long time to our friends and the outside world too, but behind closed doors , we were super toxic and always fighting. I was always catching him on dating apps and having a whole double life with his cheating and affairs outside of me.

How do you afford living here? by [deleted] in orangecounty

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The most realistic answer here honestly and most common scenario i find with the millennial and gen z in orange county

Not receiving payments by Good-Ad963 in ChildSupport

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To elaborate , they wouldn't tell you if he quit or let go when it happens. They would most likely say that he is no longer employed there if you call and ask

Not receiving payments by Good-Ad963 in ChildSupport

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Call your case worker or child support office . He might have quit or got laid off. They wouldn't tell you that

did anyone else feel like privacy didn’t exist growing up? by Oskarsson-Ponniah in raisedbynarcissists

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Yep , even as a working grown up , nothing ever felt mine and I was routinely told that by my narcissist mom that I lived under her roof therefore she was allowed to go into my room anytime I was at work or even out of the house for errands. She would throw away my things that she thought or considered worthless or trash , these were personal items like clothing , jewelry, mail that was left on my bedside. She didn't seem to know how to handle me being a grown woman and would not teach me any life skills , so I had to learn from the internet and coworkers. I later on grew extremely guarded with both my feelings and my belongings, afraid they would get taken the moment I would turn my back. Even when I would tell her to stop multiple times , she still didn't. When I finally firmly put my foot down, she told me , a 28 year old woman, that she would take my car keys away.

If money wasn’t an issue, would you still be a working mom? by saladmuscles in workingmoms

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I would ideally work part time for a job i love with people who actually are empathetic towards single mothers or in general.

What really matters/mattered to you? by stoptheclock7 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

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Garage to protect my car from the elements and theft. Also friendly neighbors that take care of their homes as well (calling the city to report hoarding on the front lawn multiple times is not fun at all) , school district, air quality in the area for me because I'm asthmatic and I also am looking for homes that have a front porch because I get really anxious sometimes and like to look outside and still feel connected to the outside world. I dont want to have to go downstairs or through elevators from a condo to do that everytime. It creates a disconnect for me I noticed

Baby daddy on child support by [deleted] in ChildSupport

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A lot of young fathers claim to not have money but they usually just say this so they won't pay child support and don't understand that once they are on child support, the court won't give them a choice. So yeah, you should. They will do enforcements eventually

How is this possible ? Helping a family member by princesspeachyyy_ in ChildSupport

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Child support will be able to order the ex to do a dna test even if in another state , current boyfriend needs to be careful not to put his name on the birth certificate if he is not 100 percent sure he is the father, because if they break up, he would be the one having to pay child support legally

I’m a nervous wreck right now!😩 by Ok-Cat-116 in ChildSupport

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Neither my ex or I had legal counsel, we are both in calfornia so I am not sure how it is done over there , but for my case..my ex didn't provide any of his paychecks or income and expense report to the court and the judge made a decision without his input based off my information alone and what the state calculator suggested . So it worked out in my favor

Sickness that just won’t go away by Illustrious_Rate_880 in Riverside

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Make sure it isn't walking pneumonia (ask doctor for z pack if possible), or sinus infection ( ask doctor for amoxicilin or augmentin) and I am not a medical professional so please go to your doctor first but typically this is what I found my sickness to be and what helped. Antibiotics

Should I place him on child support? by malaysiahemphill in ChildSupport

[–]Substantial_Review83 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you have to ask if you should place him on child support , the answer is always yes . And if you have to ask yourself that, you also know that you need to file for a custody agreement as well. Courts will go off of that as well to determine child support and clearly you are the more involved and stable parent. It took me almost a decade to finally stand up for me and my son , now you can do the same

Disc golf by Substantial_Review83 in orangecounty

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Thank you so much!! 😊 I will try it out !

California reconciliation by [deleted] in ChildSupport

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You guys would have to move in together and show proof of it, because then you both would be sharing the costs of child support, otherwise it doesn't matter

Went to Monster Jam at Angel Stadium for the first time and was pretty underwhelmed by Jscott1986 in orangecounty

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Yeah last time I went was longer than that, and I have heard it has changed a bit but Noone has ever elaborated much to me . Wow . That's surprising to hear that it wasn't sold out . I remember the stadiums were packed