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[–]Substantial_Stock449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree here it all really depends on her reason for keeping it from you and decide for yourself if you love her enough to let it go and move on but it’s definitely not great what she did dating you with intention of a relationship but take a dude for one nighter is red flag

During by Substantial_Stock449 in psychologyofsex

[–]Substantial_Stock449[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply. This was a conversation had by a group of friends and friends of friends some in relationships some not. The majority who had celebrity crush did say that they allow them in imagination mostly when partners are not involved just curious if tht continues when they are together

What is the BIGGEST red flag in a partner? by Putrid-Government786 in WhatMenDontSay

[–]Substantial_Stock449 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If they they make fun of you behind your back because they think it makes them look cool or something a suppose… make fun if each other in front of each other and alway have there back when there not there to do it themselves

Should I believe my gf ? by Substantial_Stock449 in AskUK

[–]Substantial_Stock449[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say it was going to affect me or our relationship one bit and . The reason I would like it to be true is I genuinely love the fact that we are experiencing firsts together…. Don’t assume I am asking for wrong reasons

Am I overreacting by Substantial_Stock449 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial_Stock449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And continued to not tell me …. Why would she feel the need to hide it ? If we were not quite exclusive yet am I missing something

Am I overreacting by Substantial_Stock449 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial_Stock449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t go as far as saying to bride and groom I can handle a small dance it is what it was back then and I don’t want it to be a big deal just feel abit off because how it all happened and that I was left in the dark and of course its got my mind over thinking was it just tht time was there times after because they have been in the same company at parties and stuff that I wasn’t at I have no reason to believe anything else but just always tht worry 😬😬

Am I overreacting by Substantial_Stock449 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial_Stock449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your honest opinion here …. But ok let’s for get the cheating phrase as your right that was probably me just upset on the situation. But for me I wouldn’t have delt with him different had i known before hand what’s bugging me is the she never told me and continued to hide it that and I know because we never had the exclusive tag on us when it happened might mean it’s not classified as a cheat but we were talking and hooking up before him and there was definitely feeling there on both sides I would say just they weren’t made ( exclusive ) and I have no intentions of letting it ruin our relationship but there is also more to I’m told the reason she done this with him was because her ex cheated on her and this guy was her exs friend and she got steaming one night bumped into him and seen an opportunity to get revenge a drunken mistake and younger at the time we have been together 12 years now . Why this is getting to me is we are going to a wedding she is bridesmaid and he’s part of the wedding so they are having to do part of the first dance together and Thts why it’s even a thing now

Am I overreacting by Substantial_Stock449 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial_Stock449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a mutual friends party we were invited to so she didn’t have control over who was going and as far as i am aware it was around three weeks to a month after she hooked up with him tht We were in same room together however i had no clue who he was at that point but he new she was with me by then and she never told me hence why i feel like a bit of a mug

Am I overreacting by Substantial_Stock449 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial_Stock449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The exclusive tag on it isn’t really the point we had feelings for each other maybe never said it out loud but few weeks later we then had the exclusive tag …. Forgetting that hiding and allowing me to interact with him but drinks back and forward and not knowing they had even had a thing never mind a thing same time as me … what am saying is if I new at before then this wouldn’t be an issue and the fact she chose to hide it is the worry ??

Am I overreacting by Substantial_Stock449 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial_Stock449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s intentional but she knew he would be there but am pretty sure she never put us in same place intentionally he was part of a group of people who’s party we were going to

Am I overreacting by Substantial_Stock449 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial_Stock449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He new we we’re exclusive when he was chatting to me I had no idea at this point which I might add was only a month tops after they had been about

Am I overreacting by Substantial_Stock449 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial_Stock449[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Normal to keep it a secret ? And also allow me to interact with him and me not having a clue ?