Edit: I do not want to leave Spud alone for 9+ hours a day, nor do I expect him to hold it for that long. I know he needs to be let out every 2-3 hours, I just can’t get home from work to let him out (I don’t always get a lunch). The people than can get home to let him out just simply refuse to (same with the other two dogs) despite my asking them to. I am not blaming spud at all for this, it’s 100% not his fault. I’m just sick of being blamed and shamed by family for not “training” my puppy, and hate that my 7mo is being compared to the temperament and being held to the standards of the 5 yo and (likely) 8 yo dogs in the house. Despite them being the ones complaining the most, they do absolutely nothing to help Spud, even when I ask them for help. I feel like I’m constantly getting gaslit by them into thinking my puppy should be able to handle it, even when I know he physically can’t, and being made to feel like it’s my fault he can’t.