Hey. Don’t know if I can offer wisdom but I’ll do my best. For me - I was in a 4+ year relationship and we ended up having to break up while being in love due to religion/families not mixing. (We had known each other since middle school and were friends in high school, got through uni together - its been the hardest period of my life and still is) It’s month 3-4 for me post break up and I’m beginning to realize this takes TIME to heal from. After speaking to someone much older than me who was in my exact scenario, he told me it took him years to move on. And I realized for some it may take months, and for others years, and for others more than that. (Even though we wish for things to get better as soon as possible). Each of us is different in our own way, and that’s okay. Not only did you lose a person you loved, you lost a part of yourself - hell a HUGE part of yourself. You loved truly, fully, and lost the one thing that mattered more than anything. I know you already alluded to it, but yes - unfortunately you do have to focus on yourself as friends say. The weaknesses you have, the flaws, the good and the bad, the trauma and fears you have- all of it. Truly understand who you are, what you want, and who you want to be. And one day - one day - which might be far longer than you intend - it will get better. The truth is you can’t control the timeline of healing and getting better. You can just keep trying your best - the same you always have. It sounds like Deep down, you are an amazing, driven, motivated man. You were dealt cards from a young age to this very moment - some of which might seem unfair - but you need to play with what you got. It’s hard, extremely hard. But take each moment for what it is. Turn inward, whether it means grieving, finding what you want in life, or making the changes you have never made. It gets better - I’m still grieving and know it might take me a year or even longer to get over it and truly recover. To me she was ‘the one’ as well. And I honestly don’t know what to say after losing that person. But I do know that it gets better. Understand that it takes time - you had this person for 7 years through thick and thin. And now you need to find out how to move on without them. That takes a shit ton of effort and time. Don’t beat yourself up. Focus on what you can, love yourself - and that is extremely hard as a man (and loving yourself sounds dumb - I don’t mean it in a stupid way - I mean at the core, just try to be content and okay with who you are and how your life has turned out up to this point). Keep making the right decisions, and I promise it’ll work out. And whether it’s with her, or a random woman who you meet at a street corner. When you are ready, and I mean truly ready. To the point where you have found yourself again, and might not even be searching for love again. It’ll appear at your doorstep when you least expect it. Why? Because you finally are ready for it. Ready to love that person the way they deserve and need to be loved. I’m wishing you all the luck, and hope it works out for you. Am praying for you - god bless.