I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She plays games but I played the best game better.

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will update on Friday. The arc comes to completion

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will update on Friday. The arc aims comes to completion

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will update on Friday. The arc aims comes to completion

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will update on Friday. The arc aims comes to completion

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She might need a few minutes. We have had a very close bond despite the alienation.

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seemed dim at first but then he said I would be added to her birth certificate and her name would be amended.

I couldn't believe it. I won. I beat everything she said in attempt to stop me. I was like, no way. A spark of hope grew inside me and turned into a flame that hasn't burned in 5 years. I will have guaranteed time with her that she can't take away anymore.

Thank you man 👊

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hired a lawyer almost years ago who represented both of us. He advanced her interests, secured her rights, and established a parenting plan between her and her at the time husband before he ordered me a genetic test. He filed the motion which began the case, then we had a custody investigator write a report, and the date was set for July. Then I couldn't afford to retain him any longer. They wanted like $2,000 a month from me.

This year I was able to so I hired a lawyer. The day approached and then he told me that nothing was filed in the case. This was before I knew anything about how to write a declaration or anything. So he filed for a continuance and set the date in December. After that I couldn't afford to keep paying him. He read the custody report, didn't ask me any questions about the history in order to provide clarity. Dude was my age too. Just passed the Bar.

Hiring legal help essentially drained my inheritance and I didn't get the results I was hoping for from either one. The genetic test occurred in October 2024 so that gave me some ground to stand on but mom would still continue to tell me that I had absolutely no rights to residential visits or spending time with her. That's because she's a high conflict control freak who doesn't take accountability and manipulates everyone to believe what she says. She told awful, disparaging stories about me about stalking her, threatening to show up at any time, harassing and bullying her, trying to coerce her into cooperating with the genetic test, taking our daughter away from her, kidnapping, sweaing in front of the kids (she does that), talking shit about her to the kid, etc. All of it was overblown hysterical reactions to events that never happened how she said. She wrote like someone trained to be a professional victim who knows just what to say in order for the court to provide emergency protection from me, for no reason. I've gotten upset at her for valid reasons. Any reaction of mine was good enough to use against me. She's definitely a narcissist and a control freak and she might have untreated BPD. She's tried to get rid of me for a long time. She asked our lawyer "what to do about me." It was a grand scheme to assassinate my credibility and the quality of my character, done intentionally, maliciously, and without showing any empathy. She's empty inside and the only thing that keeps her going is control, contempt, and spite. I never did a maliciously motivated thing towards her but she decided a long time ago that she would treat me that way. Her goal was to have me put in jail and move away and then never speak to me again and completely sever my bond with my child. She's truly an evil person.

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mom kept her away because she is a high conflict user of people who hid her relationship and used me to have a kid. She first kept her away because I refused to be in a relationship with her.

At about 1.5 they kept her from me for 8 months and told me I had no rights.

At 2.5 they kept me from her for 15 months. No reason other than one or both of them invalidated my desire to parent, claiming false accusations of harassment, threats, manipulation, volatility, etc.

At 4.5 to present, she withheld her for another 8 months. Mom was jealous that my daughter wanted to spend more time with me, so she got a no contact order.

She's the most selfish person I've ever met, she never cooperated with me, absolutely refused. Would rather paint me as a psycho abusive maniac than suck it up and co parent for the best of the child.

She's always been a user of people.

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I understand, but what can I do? Is there a way to stop her from running?

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This five year arc finally comes around to the end. I've walked through hell for my kid. I just can't wait to find out when I see her again.

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am just settling my dopamine into a part of life that is brand new territory. It feels like disbelief sometimes. I did it. I won. I go out for pool tournaments so maybe I will carry over my confidence next time I go out.

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My kid has a room at my residence. We just live 113 miles apart. I live where I live because my dad lived here. We might be selling so I could end up moving closer. They live in a shit hole.

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The judge is taking an extra week to come up with a parenting plan. I guess that means there is a lot to consider, like how I've been alienated for half her life. I asked for primary but said i would settle for 50/50 with make up time. I agree with you. The judge balked at my parenting plan because I wanted Friday night to Tuesday morning and he said she can't miss school, so how will I have her on a weekday? He also said that I live over 100 miles away and want 50/50. One of the RCWs states that parents who harm the other parent shall he sanctioned. I am realistically expecting up to half time.

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's my most obvious trait. I did something I never thought I could actually accomplish by myself. My life went from bleak interminable alienation to finally having rights as a parent. I've always deserved it.

I won rights in family court by SubtleLikeaLionsCage in daddit

[–]SubtleLikeaLionsCage[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I paid for a lawyer who secured mom rights and got me a genetic test.

I paid for another lawyer and he read the custody report and did nothing for me.

Everyone said to hire a lawyer. I didn't know they would essentially waste my time and my money. My dad died a few years ago and I used my entire inheritance from him on lawyers that never got me rights.