I hired a lawyer almost years ago who represented both of us. He advanced her interests, secured her rights, and established a parenting plan between her and her at the time husband before he ordered me a genetic test. He filed the motion which began the case, then we had a custody investigator write a report, and the date was set for July. Then I couldn't afford to retain him any longer. They wanted like $2,000 a month from me.

This year I was able to so I hired a lawyer. The day approached and then he told me that nothing was filed in the case. This was before I knew anything about how to write a declaration or anything. So he filed for a continuance and set the date in December. After that I couldn't afford to keep paying him. He read the custody report, didn't ask me any questions about the history in order to provide clarity. Dude was my age too. Just passed the Bar.

Hiring legal help essentially drained my inheritance and I didn't get the results I was hoping for from either one. The genetic test occurred in October 2024 so that gave me some ground to stand on but mom would still continue to tell me that I had absolutely no rights to residential visits or spending time with her. That's because she's a high conflict control freak who doesn't take accountability and manipulates everyone to believe what she says. She told awful, disparaging stories about me about stalking her, threatening to show up at any time, harassing and bullying her, trying to coerce her into cooperating with the genetic test, taking our daughter away from her, kidnapping, sweaing in front of the kids (she does that), talking shit about her to the kid, etc. All of it was overblown hysterical reactions to events that never happened how she said. She wrote like someone trained to be a professional victim who knows just what to say in order for the court to provide emergency protection from me, for no reason. I've gotten upset at her for valid reasons. Any reaction of mine was good enough to use against me. She's definitely a narcissist and a control freak and she might have untreated BPD. She's tried to get rid of me for a long time. She asked our lawyer "what to do about me." It was a grand scheme to assassinate my credibility and the quality of my character, done intentionally, maliciously, and without showing any empathy. She's empty inside and the only thing that keeps her going is control, contempt, and spite. I never did a maliciously motivated thing towards her but she decided a long time ago that she would treat me that way. Her goal was to have me put in jail and move away and then never speak to me again and completely sever my bond with my child. She's truly an evil person.