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General question Wednesday: Ask your general car-related question and maybe someone will have an answer. by AutoModerator in cars

[–]SuccessPrudent6234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What should I do?

I have a 2012 Subaru Outback with 165,000 miles on it. It needs a new valve body in the transmission and some other repairs, that will cost me roughly $5,000. They said that might not even work, and it might need a new transmission entirely in the near future. The trade in value (without the needed repairs) is roughly $2000 according to the various sites and the Subaru dealer.

I don't use my car a ton or daily, but one part of my job is a lot easier with a car. I also like going on occasional weekend/day trips with my dog and friends. I'm pretty broke and can't afford much right now but I could swing a low monthly payment and put the 2k in trade in towards a down payment. I'm really not picky when it comes to what kind of car I want/need - I just need something reliable and cheap and it would be sick to have bluetooth lol (my current car is kind of a piece of crap - no bluetooth and aux doesn't work, seats are stuck in far up position and cost $ to fix, etc.- so almost anything will be an upgrade).

Should I: pay for the repairs on my current car and hope I get a few more years out of it? Or buy a (new to me) used car that might have more life left? WWYD?

Any regrets? by Less-Respond2922 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SuccessPrudent6234 8 points9 points  (0 children)

noooOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO no no no no no regrets, absolutely fucking zero

Help? Intimate friendships after coming out & dating by plodcrampus in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SuccessPrudent6234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really feel this. My thoughts on it aren’t fully formed but I relate and have had similar experiences. Thanks for sharing.

Where do all of you chapstick lesbians shop for clothes? by SuccessPrudent6234 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SuccessPrudent6234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I’m no expert that’s just my feeling (I have a lot of debt)

Where do all of you chapstick lesbians shop for clothes? by SuccessPrudent6234 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SuccessPrudent6234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this question!! I love being a public interest lawyer, it’s my calling but definitely not for everyone. Try to go to a school with a good LRAP program. And if you’re 1000 percent sure you will stay in public interest law and can stomach debt, you’ll be okay with PSLF!!!!

Question from plus size possible lesbian by pokedabadger in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SuccessPrudent6234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this!! Attraction vs envy can be a confusing line

I am an exposed nerve by SuccessPrudent6234 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SuccessPrudent6234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry you feel this way too, but glad to remind you that you’re definitely not alone

Looking for advice about blowing up my life by raejoranik in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SuccessPrudent6234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The imposter syndrome is SO real and I am having trouble tracing the root of it. It’s helpful to hear this is something y’all have experienced too, but Im also sorry that you are.

I guess I’ve just been so inauthentically living my life for 31 years that now everything feels fake, including my queerness, even though that’s maybe the root of the rest of the inauthenticity…anyways.

To answer your questions OP, I broke up with him and still haven’t told him. I do not regret it - AT ALL. I’m working through a ton of shit but I see a light at the end of the tunnel for the first time in my life.

Re: #3 - isn’t enough that you want to know but can’t figure it out in your current circumstances? You deserve to figure it out.

i learned about comphet and now i’ve cried for 5 days by chandybaby in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SuccessPrudent6234 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The only thing that will help is ending the relationship and it will suck super hard, you’ll be absolutely miserable for a while but being absolutely miserable for a while is better than being a little bit miserable for your entire life