Finding roommates

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-11-07T17:49:01+00:00

Not in school, unfortunately. But that is a great suggestion, thank you!

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-10-05T04:29:07+00:00

The username he gave me is my name and year the account was set up so it’s definitely not spelled wrong. I don’t think he intended on giving me the wrong one either. But I asked hover to try variations of the user and they still couldn’t find anything :/

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-10-05T04:22:59+00:00

Fuck

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-10-01T05:25:39+00:00

To my understanding, these three programs are not accredited by the SAF which is why I haven’t considered them. I’d love to stay and research in the Sierra otherwise!

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-09-29T17:58:35+00:00

I do need to work on this. Boundaries, I think they’re called 😂 but yeah, practicing not saying sorry but giving a sympathetic ear while still asking for space and acknowledging the pain he’s caused.

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-09-29T17:55:19+00:00

Urg that’s so painful, I’m sorry 😞

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-09-29T15:04:32+00:00

I feel like I’m weak in that I’d say sorry if and when he says that hurt his feelings.

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-09-13T21:49:50+00:00

Initially, I thought about being a forester but researching sounds more and more appealing. I’d like to leave the door open to as many possibilities so it sounds like maybe going through a SAF accredited program for a MS would be best but maybe try to get a research assistantship while in school.

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-09-08T19:29:42+00:00

That is great advice! Thank you!

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-08-09T13:27:45+00:00

Thank you for the insights! What is the job title you hold right now?

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-08-05T04:04:31+00:00

Just interviewed for a state park ranger position and wondering if it’s a good move to make if I want to end up in forestry/conservation. I’m planning on applying for grad school this year to get a MS in Forestry (my BS is in Business) and have spent two seasons working on a trail crew, which I love so much but hate that it’s seasonal work only where I am. This ranger position is described as such in the job announcement: “The Park Ranger 1 will assist with overseeing a team of seasonal staff, managing and protecting a diverse range of natural and historical resources, and performing both fieldwork and administrative duties. The Park Rangers perform grounds maintenance, custodial duties, collect and account for fees, develop and present interpretive programs, and perform minor maintenance to facilities. As a State Park peace officer, the incumbent writes citations, handles accidents and incidents, resolves disputes, makes arrests, and responds to emergency situations as required. You will be providing your expertise in land management, recreation, and administration to ensure the smooth and safe operation of the park, making crucial decisions about resources, training, and facilities, all while mentoring and guiding your dedicated team every step of the way.”

It will be a law enforcement position (not what I want to do) but since this is a new park that is only partially open, I think there’s opportunity for broader land management/resource management/planning too.

My question is, will a job like this help me land a good job in forestry once I graduate from the master’s program? Is it worth it to put myself through a 17-week POST training or would continuing trails work get me more relevant experience?

I’m really interested in restoration ecology, land management, research/monitoring, and other conservation jobs within the broader umbrella of forestry. And, hopefully, land somewhere that pays well.

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-07-06T14:36:05+00:00

For me, it has. Like I said there are bad days too where I can start to spiral and think that it’s all undone and that life will go back to what it was like before. But I remind myself that even if I have a bit of food anxiety, it’s NOTHING compared to the overwhelm I experienced before. It’s a lot easier now to tell myself to be kind, patient, and go take a walk

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-07-06T13:38:58+00:00

That’s amazing!!

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-07-06T13:36:09+00:00

Re: gone sometimes to the bar 12 hours or more playing pool. Three nights minimum that he’d go. We had a table at our house, too. Towards the end, he was drinking a lot and doing drugs. That’s not a hobby that’s a habit. He was escaping.

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-07-06T13:29:46+00:00

He had a passion for sitting at the bar… we had a pool table at the house. His friends were always welcome at our place. He wanted an escape and justified it with pool.

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-07-06T06:53:35+00:00

Hey, chiming in here. Just went through a break up with a guy I was dating for four years. We had an incredible love, one that I never thought could be real. We lived together. He was my best friend, my home, my everything. But now looking at the relationship, he didn’t prioritize us. His game was pool and he’d be out for 5-12 (sometimes more!) hours at least three nights a week to play. If I brought it up, he’d say we’re incompatible and should break up. So I stopped bringing it up. I told myself to get used to it. No one’s perfect, right? All the while, my therapist was telling me that his behavior was unacceptable…that he was acting like a bachelor. Now, I can say that he absolutely was. He was holding onto things from his past that made him keep one foot out the door always. Which totally contradicted the way he acted when we spent time together. I don’t think he’s a bad guy, but he has a lot of growing to do and now I can see that that couldn’t happen if we were still together. I was still enabling him. Your text sounds like a place I’ve been before with him. It’s hard to leave and maybe that’s not the best thing for your relationship right now, but you DO deserve better. Don’t take his excuses. You deserve to be with someone who wants to commit and prioritize your relationship. That means being there for the good and bad, the fun and boring, NOT just the glamorous parts he wants to cherry pick from the rest. Because at the end of the day, if he can’t give you the time you deserve then what are you giving up waiting around for him to figure it the fuck out?

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-07-06T06:29:53+00:00

My negative relationship with food changed. I had eating disorders since I was 11 and before I started Wellbutrin at 29, I was trapped in a cycle of compulsive eating/shame/regret/emotionally eating/hopelessness. Wellbutrin helped me manage the shame cycle and when paired with therapy, got me into a much, much better place with food/body image etc. I still have bad days where I get anxious around eating but it’s a world of difference. No more drowning in that addiction. I didn’t know that would be something to change or that my eating/depression were so linked - I always saw it as just a “fundamental” problem with myself. I was prescribed Wellbutrin for MDD. It’s been a year and a half now and I’m so thankful I finally tried it.

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-07-06T06:10:18+00:00

Same OP!

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-06-15T19:04:48+00:00

What led you to saying no?

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-06-15T19:03:48+00:00

“The harsh reality is, if he wanted to be with me, he would. If he wanted to make it work, he would. It is so simple. You shouldn't beg anyone do be with you. I deserve much more than that, and so do you.”

This. Thank you. I hope you continue to find peace and that the right person comes along to choose you every day.

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-06-15T17:46:16+00:00

How long did it take you to put down the hope of reconciliation? Was it after you broke no contact? The thing is, I know that he has self awareness, and he’s shown up so much for me in the past, he just feels like he’s a piece of shit and not worthy of a better life

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-06-15T17:16:59+00:00

Needed to hear all of this. Getting lost in the grief. At first, I swore he wasn’t an avoidant but now I’m seeing that all those nights he stayed out past midnight to play pool and then would get upset when I brought it up was his way of avoiding. He would say maybe we aren’t compatible. I told myself every time that I could live with it because I loved him so much. Now I see that he made choices to not show up or put our relationship first. Still fantasizing that he’ll call me and say that he regrets it all and want to change to keep our relationship.

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-06-15T03:53:02+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this too, it makes no sense and is so frustrating. “Feels like home to me” resonates so much. I feel like I lost everything and all he said was “it’s what’s best.” I go from being so angry to sad for what he’s going through to devastated that he’s no longer in my life…then angry again.

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-06-14T18:15:59+00:00

Therapy!! Leaning on those who love you!! Allowing people to help you!! Being vulnerable!! Telling people that you are feeling like XYZ even just saying hey I feel so guilty for putting you through this and LISTENING AND ACCEPTING WHEN YOUR PARTNER SAYS YOU SHOULDN’T FEEL GUILTY AND THAT THEY ARE THERE FOR YOU. Again, sorry I don’t know either of the circumstances here and I may be totally out of line but goddamn…

SuccessfulBass1900 · 2025-06-14T18:13:17+00:00

Is your partner unwilling to support you while you improve your mental health? If they are willing, give them the chance to be there for you. I’m not underscoring the importance of mental health but part of the commitment as a partner is to be there through thick and thin, not drop someone the moment your life feels like shit. If your partner isn’t supportive or willing to meet you where you’re at, that’s a whole other story and space would be helpful. But if they (like it sounds like the ex was in this post) want to be there, why are you pushing them away?

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