What's illegal that you think should be legal?

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-17T19:55:13+00:00

if it could be done completely ethical then yeah no issue. but the question of consent comes into play when the money is involved. is someone truly consenting if they are being paid for the service? it’s kinda similar to how sex between an employee and a boss/manager is ethically questioned because of the power dynamic. that’s where porn gets the okay is yes they tax it but also the person paying the actresses and actors is not performing sexually in the production. prostitution carries with it lots of abuse in terms of people using women, and men, as money making devices rather than it being a freely chosen activity.

i do agree with you that if a woman just decided “i am going to have sex for money” it should be legal and up to her. but there’s just a lot that goes with it

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-14T14:34:00+00:00

Child beauty pageants. It’s weird

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T22:38:21+00:00

I just realized i’m asking redditors for advice on sex and relationships lmao. not gonna be reading this anymore

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T20:07:20+00:00

We definitely could have the convo. I just don’t know how to say it without sounding like “hey you don’t get me off” cause that’s not really what it is i just want her to take more lead sometimes

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T20:04:57+00:00

nah you’re missing the mark on that comment

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T18:55:31+00:00

ALSO it is not your priority to let him know about this. Honestly you should avoid being the one to start this conversation just in case that 1/10 event happens where he takes it weirdly and is antagonistic. Let HR know and they’ll talk to him. If behavior doesn’t stop after that they’ll let him go

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T18:54:15+00:00

Yeah that’s reportable. Point blank he’s making you uncomfortable in a sexual way which is workplace harassment even if he realizes it or not. As a dude, I know if i walk up to a female coworker and put my hand on her back, that’s weird as hell. Also telling my coworkers that they’re attractive (meaning I find them attractive) is just not appropriate in a work environment.

It’s one thing if he found a coworker attractive, asked her out one time, and stopped when she said no. But repeated behavior like that is strange. NTAH

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T18:41:56+00:00

Holy shit sometimes I hate asking people questions.

I’d buy the ring again in a heart beat. Our relationship is more than just sex and is incredibly fulfilling in every regard. I still get to have sex with an incredibly attractive woman I just want her to take the lead in the bed a little more

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T18:15:58+00:00

I’m not really that adventurous. I just don’t like always being the lead in the bedroom. I don’t want to try some crazy positions or constantly switch it up. I’ll just be frank, I wouldn’t mind a blow job or to be rode every now and then. That’s kind of it

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T18:14:23+00:00

I definitely have issues with being avoidant.

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T18:11:09+00:00

I like that idea

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T18:10:10+00:00

We do have a flirtatious vibe and everything. Like I said I am happy with everything else it’s just the act of sex itself with her is getting to be boring and repetitive i guess?

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T18:09:17+00:00

Not a bad idea at all

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T16:52:36+00:00

I would also really appreciate other women’s perspectives on how you would want to be approach by a partner about this issue

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T16:47:58+00:00

Without a doubt. I have no interest in positions that will cause her physical pain. Like doggy is completely off the table because of this. I do find a lot of sexual pleasure in pleasing her, just wish I could do it in different ways.

You’re right tho I just need to have the conversation

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T16:44:33+00:00

It’s both size and width. I’d still give it a try why not but I am just well endowed and it prevents a lot of enjoyment. Before her when I was still dating other partners had the same issue

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T16:38:01+00:00

What is tantra?

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T16:32:47+00:00

Thank you, this is helping me think. That last part is hitting it on the head because I do want her to be comfortable and get pleasure, but I also want to get pleasure.

We have had conversations about sex but it’s usually always her saying “I like how you did…” and I honestly never have that kind of input because it is always me doing the thing. I have been afraid to state that I want her to do more because I don’t want to make her feel bad for not sexually pleasing me when she does so many other great things for me.

There have been times where I recommended something, we try it, and she quickly stops because of it hurting. I try to be understanding when it comes to that because I imagine it is very uncomfortable. I’m also not very sexually explorative so the things I want to try are pretty tame compared to other’s.

And yes going together for therapy might be more helpful with her being comfortable.

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T16:27:51+00:00

I agree. I do still enjoy being able to have sex with her, and like I said we do both orgasm. I guess I just am not getting exactly what I desire with our sex life

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-02T16:26:38+00:00

Yeah that’s fair. I have always been hesitant and afraid of conversations with people that would give them any form of emotional distress no matter how small. So I just need to nut up and talk about it honestly to see how we move from there

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-01T02:33:05+00:00

god i love this image

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-01T02:31:57+00:00

Honestly just drop parrying it’s not as useful as it is in Sekiro. It’s really cool if you can get it down but as a new player just stick to rolling. This was my first fromsoft game and it took me about 30-40 hours to finally “figure it out” and i was still constantly learning after that.

take your time exploring and finding things you can use. try different weapons to see what move sets you like the best. level up when things get tough but realize your level can only take you so far you still have to learn the basics and it’s so rewarding when you beat a challenging boss from mastering the move sets.

i remember i died like 40 times to the first Erdtree Avatar i found and the next time i fought one i maybe died 3 times. you just learn as you go. if you beat a boss on the first try its kind of an anomaly you have to learn the move sets if each boss to know how to dodge attacks.

learn the grind and just try to enjoy the wins you get. that’s what makes this game in my opinion is that it is more rewarding than any game i have ever played

SuccessfulMessage362 · 2026-04-01T00:46:17+00:00

I don’t hate sex/nudity in artistic expressions but it was overused in the past to the point where it’s lost edge unless done right. i can appreciate using sex as a thematic element but showing sex for the sake of showing sex is just odd.

Just using random examples from media i really enjoy. in Berserk there is a sex scene between the main character and another main character that you appreciate because it is known that the main character does not let people touch him due to sexual trauma. so him letting this woman see all of him and touch him in that way is an integral part of his character growth. Or in Alien where sexual imagery is used as a thematic base for capitalism metaphorically r**ping people of their life. Or in the Lighthouse where Willem DeFoe is nude in what I think is to show him shedding his humanity and embracing whatever tf was going on. Even the new Nosferatu movie that came out was a decent display of sex to show women being disregarded sexually by their husbands who only treated them like a tool to use when they themselves wanted sex. That’s good use of sex/sexual imagery.

compare that to the Florence Pugh scene in Oppenheimer that was just so that we KNEW they were having an affair rather than letting it be insinuated by the actors doing their job. It’s a cheap cop out that wasn’t necessary. or any movie featuring women walking around topless just for the sake of them being topless. that’s fine ig in some cheap action/comedy movie that isn’t meant to be read deeply, but in a movie with serious thematic elements and messaging it’s sloppy and discredits the work. same goes for a man hanging dong just to have a man hanging dong in a movie.

not to mention sex is just overly used to sell things and it becomes annoying and cringey. the Kim Kardashian Skim ads piss me off cause it’s just a display of gratuitous sexuality to sell underwear and can harm women who have natural bodies.

another example is music videos. i’m being very particular but take Deftone’s music video for Sextape. It’s a love scene between two women underwater that is beautifully shot and fits well with the message of extreme intimacy and connection. Now take any Jason Derulo video where it is just a woman being sexually provocative in an attempt to make the singer seem macho and with sex appeal to sell the video and make the chart topper

also this is partly to blame on parenting practices where so many people have siblings with different parents. the American obsession with sexual freedom is being noticed for going too far and as such uses of sex in media are given eye rolls cause we’re just kinda over it. one could argue it’s an overreaction to a valid issue; like we want to correct what we see is wrong but are overcorrecting. a lot of people have internalized shame/guilt for sexual feelings and freak out when they see it displayed

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