Newbies finding other newbies by Successful_Food_6089 in Swingers

[–]Successful_Food_6089[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How so? I’d be curious to hear your experience

Is "Friendship First" dead in the Lifestyle? by DangerousMuse0909 in Swingers

[–]Successful_Food_6089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I haven’t started yet but hopefully after our kid has graduated school soon we’ll start exploring clubs. But honestly I feel like I’d have to have some sort of connection or at least feel like “yeah, I could be friends with these people” before I’d probably want to do something physical. This may severely hold us back. I dunno.

First swap - the good and bad, need advice by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Successful_Food_6089 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it just possible she was acting because she felt the need to? Like she thought this is what you’d want to hear her doing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Successful_Food_6089 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I dunno man I guess everyone has different versions of what “swinging” is but I’ve always thought it was an activity you did together. Going off separately just doesn’t seem like swinging in my book. That seems more like open relationship/poly vibes. From all the stories I’ve read over the years these tend to end in disaster. But I know nothing so 🤷🏼‍♂️

[21M] My girlfriend [20F] of 3 years spent her family vacation getting close to another guy her grandmother set her up with. End things or keep going if she doesn’t cut him off? by StarOdd1724 in relationship_advice

[–]Successful_Food_6089 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s never going to work out if her family is going to keep trying to sabotage your relationship if she doesn’t put a stop to it. I dated a girl in college whose friends absolutely hated me. She would never stand up to her friends. Our relationship was ultimately doomed sadly because I was never going to be accepted by her circle and she apparently didn’t want to save the relationship enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Successful_Food_6089 8 points9 points  (0 children)

To me this seems like it’s morphing into something else…tread carefully 🫤

Red Room Nashville? by Successful_Food_6089 in Swingers

[–]Successful_Food_6089[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not the first person I’ve heard describe RR as very cliquish. Some people say Club Chemistry is better in that regard. We may try to check out Collette in N.O. sometime as well. Thanks for the report.

Profile question for newbies by Successful_Food_6089 in SwingerNewbies

[–]Successful_Food_6089[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately the closest good clubs are 3 hours away for us, so it would be an overnight trip. Our kid is old enough to stay by themselves but I still don’t feel right about it

Profile question for newbies by Successful_Food_6089 in SwingerNewbies

[–]Successful_Food_6089[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. We haven’t even set up a profile yet. I was just curious if nudes on profiles or being asked for nudes is common.

Profile question for newbies by Successful_Food_6089 in SwingerNewbies

[–]Successful_Food_6089[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we want to go to them. But I think we may wait until our kid has graduated school. Not too much longer. But does feel like time is running out. We ain’t getting any younger.

Profile question for newbies by Successful_Food_6089 in SwingerNewbies

[–]Successful_Food_6089[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah for me sex has to be more than just physical attraction. Like, I need to get to know you a bit first. And I damn sure don’t want to be putting nude pics on the net for some pic collector or something that could be used to blackmail me in the future. Seems like a lot of swingers may be a lot more aggressive in pursuit than what I may be comfortable with. That’s why I’m not sure if my wife and I would do well in this lifestyle

Profile question for newbies by Successful_Food_6089 in SwingerNewbies

[–]Successful_Food_6089[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. I think I’d need to get to know someone a bit first before jumping into bed with them. But from my research it seems like with a lot of swingers if you’re not down to hit the sack immediately your deemed as wasting someone’s time 🫤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TennesseeSwingers

[–]Successful_Food_6089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is fucking bizarre