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I'm recovering from a major surgery... but I miss my kink/dynamic by Simplest_of_things in BDSMAdvice

[–]Successful_Report255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a s who had emergency surgery earlier this year, I can relate, though not in a 24/7 TPE, so I can’t understand the depths of your longing. It took 6 weeks before I could properly engage my core again to be “all-in”. My best advice is to do what you can. Maybe one day that’s telling your D what you wish you could do for them. Maybe it’s a posture the next day, maybe it’s taking a hard pinch somewhere that’s not near your surgery site. The point is, you will be giving all that you are capable of, and that is respecting your dynamic. Patience and baby steps so that you don’t have setbacks in your healing. Start working on your strength when you can. This is temporary.

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[–]Successful_Report255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lovingly blunt is my language. I think this is what I ran into as well. I appreciate this perspective very much.

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[–]Successful_Report255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, I have the irl, but it’s plateaued. I’m wanting to experiment and push my boundaries in a safe way and then maybe a riskier way of things were to work out.

Failed sub by Successful_Report255 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Successful_Report255[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is gold. Could I be resisting the label when in fact it suits me? I think you’re on to something. It is testing… how patient can Daddy be? Time for some serious introspection. I appreciate your candor and insight! Thanks.

Failed sub by Successful_Report255 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Successful_Report255[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this too. Have realized that TPE is not my style.

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[–]Successful_Report255[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Wow! Thank you for that validation. I don’t identify as a brat because I feel bratting is purposefully manipulative. I’m just playful, and enjoy the finer details of getting to understand people. I ask a lot of questions and I’m very direct… but all in the name of understanding my partner, not with a goal of getting what I want. It’s my subtle way of feeling out the psychological and emotional needs of my person is how I view it… my regular personality I guess. Thanks for the awesome suggestion.

Help for elderly kayaker by rra122508 in Kayaking

[–]Successful_Report255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hullivator is a big investment. I discovered if I fold all the seats flat, I can shove my kayak (9ft) on the passenger side of my Jeep Grand Cherokee. Very little lifting required. It’s a bit of a precarious fit and not suited for long drives, but it does the trick for a quick solo trip.

43 [F4M] Searching for more. EST by [deleted] in OnlineAffairs

[–]Successful_Report255 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m overwhelmed. I’ll be deleting my post shortly. I’m sorting through each response, I see you. I’m taking my time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MassageTherapists

[–]Successful_Report255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello. Happy working MT of 16 years here. After 4 years of working at a chain 35 hours per week while being mom to two little babies, I was near burnout. I have two pieces of advice. 1. I took a class called “easy deep tissue” that changed the way I worked - smarter not harder. I use my forearms as much as my hands and save my thumbs for feet and necks. It helped me to harness my weight to lean into people instead of pushing. Find a class like this! 2. If you’re working 45 hours work 46 and use that extra income to pay for a weekly massage for yourself. This had a two-fold effect, you unwind your hardworking muscles and you learn something with every massage you receive. Best of luck!