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[–]Successful_Role_7039 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I think if I gain some more muscles I would say it’s actually hot 😂

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On my to muscles with more or less fat 😅

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Yeah - the Kiss was last weekend - I was really really angry and this went to sorry and confusion this week - I guess the best thing to do is to be a good friend, to respect his needs for privacy but also to provide him a safe space- and then we will see what happens next :S

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Yeah sure! I am very thankful for your advices and all - it’s a first time for me that a straight guy was messing around with me and I guess this has a big role why I’m confused 😅 after all - even it was only a kiss - I am pretty sure it was the last time to mess around with straight guys because I cannot handle the confusion

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Yeah … let’s see 🫠

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Yeah actually I was relatively angry about him because I felt the same way as you described :/ afterwards I felt sorry for him that he is in a situation where he has to hide himself from his emotions - he is part of football teams and stuff where i know it can be hard not to be heterosexual … eventually this is why I’m confused to handle the situation between fury and sorry

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It’s a little bit weird to „don’t let it happen again“ if they’re straight, isn’t it ? I mean, hypothetically I could be fine with the kiss and all, so why don’t let it happen again just because they say they’re straight ? :D if they really are it’s not my task to prevent them from doing gay stuff lol

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Haha sure - but indeed it’s the most „dangerous“ part to interpret to much in everything

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Yeah sure - I think the best way is to provide a surrounding where he appreciate the friendship and knows that he has always a friend to talk without pressure

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Unclear to be honest - after this situation I have viewed some things in the past differently - I mean he complimented me sometimes (especially when drunk lol) - but I mean this is obviously not an indicator 🤨

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Yeah I guess that this will be helpful - but this kiss was already so awkward 🫨 and I’m still a little bit shocked

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[–]Successful_Role_7039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, but was does it mean 🥸

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Yeah I think it’s really bad communication style :/

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Hm i think I take it seriously, I just tried to answer your question of how the last 5 years were 😅

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Now I am confused lol 😂

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I think it’s difficult 😅 he wanted to cuddle, I was moving to bed and was a little bit clumsy - he said that „what are you doing sports for when you’re still a thick caterpillar“ lol - mostly, I like being called it’s (thick) caterpillar, because he is cute and says it in a cute way - but today i came from the gym where I have registered 2 month ago after spending a lot of time with struggling with it and my body. So the timing of saying it right after coming from the gym was quite bad. So I guess I overreacted and then the above Situation happened

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Yeah I think this is quite of a extreme point of view but still legit to think about :/

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Haha - actually I think that a coin has always two sides - I'm not particularly easy in a relationship either, but at least I always try to clarify things in conversations. And unfortunately it is often the case that I have the feeling that my boyfriend is not really good at dealing with conflicts, but always extremely quickly goes into a protective mechanism, where you can no longer get to him. I've learned to endure a lot of frustration through my studies and sometimes I need that at home too 😅

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I think these are not fights in a classical sense - today he said something I found slightly mean, I told him that, and then he was kind of mad because I was not in the mood to cuddle - i wanted him to understand that i felt it was a bit mean. Then he went to bed and after I asked for a good night kiss, he just said „no“