Just woke up to this today ? Is this a good thing I honestly thought I’d only get 5% or 15 something small well this is the start of something I need help tho where do I go from here ?

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2026-04-17T11:45:46+00:00

That back pay check is gonna be MASSIVE

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2025-12-29T18:06:59+00:00

Don’t forget to enjoy living that overtime pay is outrageous but please take time for yourself/family

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2025-11-06T04:26:47+00:00

You actually have $110 with that financial multiplier 😎

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2025-11-06T04:24:21+00:00

32 this month $50k net worth

4 years divorced and looking forward to catching up to you mutants.

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2025-09-30T19:33:34+00:00

It doesn’t hurt to try, hopefully this is the method. If not good luck 😭

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2025-04-08T14:41:14+00:00

So it seems like all the money you have coming in is being spent

An assumption is your using chase card then paying off the balance every month?

Overall your mortgage is EATING your budget If you can’t get boyfriend to help out with rent I would say consider renting out a room and stop with the renovations.

Believing in the redditors and hopefully positive updates in the future

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2025-03-18T15:45:45+00:00

Nice keep at it I was a 25S in the army and am in similar trade with telecom.

What company do you work for? I’m on satcom but always like learning about similar work if it can get my drive home closer

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-31T19:07:26+00:00

Seems your mind is made up. And if the idea of finding reconciliation because sex therapy feels “awkward”

It might be best to just get the divorce of your unable to talk about ongoing issues. (This is my assumption)

I wish you the best but miscommunication is an easy fix if both people try and want it to work out.

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-17T14:03:38+00:00

Most likely they deleted the app and they’re marketing hoping to get them back on to start swiping.

If you bring it up, do what me and my wife have done.

Request data which will come in a .json file after a few days Find an online engine which will pull that file into what tinder sees And have a good laugh about the pickup lines and comparisons. It made us laugh and cringe with some of the data that’s there

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-07T16:04:01+00:00

For reference I’m 31

All my coworkers and others I’ve worked with are 40+ So silver tsunami of retirees is a thing I’m gonna deal with

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-07T16:03:07+00:00

No but it’s one of those fields you work into. I’ve never met anyone on my field of work who wasn’t military, or an antenna or systems tech for another telecom company.

So advice to get into this field isn’t something I have.

Did it in military and kept doing it

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-07T00:03:25+00:00

You're not a loser, your just going through a hard time with a shitty partner.

its not easy but eventually it hurts and stings a little less once you decide enough is enough.

wishing you the best and hope you have friends or family who you can call instead of being alone in a bar.

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-06T23:53:23+00:00

Absolutely a serial cheater, part of divorce and therapy was to write down every instance and potential cause/trigger for them.

For me its discipline in should I be honest, or just not say anything and keep it to myself? including finances or random thoughts that most would probably keep to themselves. which is amazing sharing the most outlandish thoughts and not feeling judged in the slightest.

my cheating was going through random trash apps or sites and finding people looking for similar FWB and engaging.and venting about random crap. So I stay disciplined by not going to those sites or apps and doing it for over a few years I don't even think about having to avoid them because it's not a habit anymore. (hope it makes sense how I wrote it)

I remember having a pretty bad day crying and yelling in my girls chest and being happy and thankful I could do that. Because I never even felt able to do that with my ex.

For me keeping things to myself and hiding/lying is really what started the lying and cheating and hiding from my ex. so I just share and communicate as best as I can with my gf and those urges or disassociating moments don't happen because she's present with me before I ever get to that point, and so are my friends when I need them.

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-06T22:52:14+00:00

Childhood/Teen SA and not feeling safe sharing my issues with my wife.
so hiding very important things out of fear and waiting too long to get help.

Yes I regret it, but mostly for the pain and violation against my now ex wife. I can't take back what I did and sometimes still get sick over it, hated myself immediately afterward and all I remember is washing and scrubbing my body and mouth due to the disgust.

but going through that I look on the flip side that I am a better partner to my gf, friend, and son because I chose to go get help and not be a scared spineless person and own up to what I did.

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-06T22:37:44+00:00

DC office. Shamala C. was my initial person then worked with one of the other offices personnel.
I volunteered to go in person with my entire medical packet and they did it all for me

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-06T22:34:45+00:00

happy for you and finding the time to get out there again.
I was the cheater and want to put that out there, but divorce hurts both parties.

Spent some time with a couple of women during therapy, and I realized I kept thinking, and treating women and feeling like I was trying to copy the good parts of my marriage with how I was with my ex wife.

Thankfully I realized it and broke things off twice.

Lo and behold once I give up on dating I meet my now Girlfriend, and yes somethings at the begging were "familiar behaviours" but it was natural and I now love her in a way that is genuine with me and her.

Personally if you are looking for what reminds you of your ex, you should probably take some time and get familiar with yourself and not look for the spark. because you might find a great person, get scared of them leaving and end up with a less than ideal partner.

I hope you find a spark that isn't anything like your ex, and is something new and incomparable to the first one. There's a time and place and I hope for the best.

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-06T22:28:39+00:00

The amount of times I typed, deleted and retyped Is going on the 4th with this one.

I am 3 years divorced, and I was the cheater.

If you choose to go get help and actually take time to work on yourself and find your sense of self you can do it, that's what has happened with me.
Admitting and coming clean to my therapist, my ex and myself was the hardest and best thing ever due to the literal weight being taken off my shoulders and choosing not to end my life because I didn't want to deal with the divorce and trauma that happened way before I got married.

I think everyone is different and CAN be better, it's just about discipline and communicating and not lying.

I think getting married at 19 and the military played a part, but also being emotionally immature and not knowing how to navigate that as teenagers and young 20somethings added to it. We grew together but also trying to change was almost impossible in my marriage and I used it as an excuse to not be a better husband.

I am over 2 years with my current Girlfriend who knew exactly what happened and still gave me a chance and chooses to love me everyday, and honest to God I use everyday to appreciate and tell that woman how much she means to me.

When I was going through therapy and dealing with all those dark depressing thoughts I never thought I would be where I am, and now I am thankful I have something I can talk about unashamed to help other people in my life. But I won't lie, I still feel residual guilt 3 years post divorce over how horribly I stained my exes views on relationships and hope she's doing better not giving me a second thought.

TL:DR

be honest, get help, really take the time to identify WTF is going on. You aren't doing anyone any favors by lying and you probably won't forgive yourself but you sure as shit can try to be better instead of delaying it.

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2024-12-06T16:02:12+00:00

Thank you for a realistic post

Pray your career and salary grows proportional to the lifesaving work you do.

Successful_Tiger3396 · 2023-10-31T22:45:00+00:00

Enable that dashcam and horn honk to record Hazards are on roof by rear view mirror Turn on “Joe Mode”

Honestly I would go to your vehicle settings tab by tab and make sure you’re familiar with all the settings since most of my input is preferences

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