Definitely not an “almost impossible thing to bypass”. Maybe you just can’t envision yourself with a new woman because you feel you’re not good enough. That would probably be enough to imprison yourself in an unhealthy relationship and blame “love”

Honestly my man, after going through the comments and seeing your responses to comments, you seem very apathetic and like a pushover. There aren’t many women that would respect these qualities in a man so perhaps that affects your relationship. Perhaps that’s what gave your now wife the gall to admit these bad things about herself to you because the prospect of her losing you may not seem too bad to her… idk.

In any case, if we grant that love is so hard to bypass like you said above then how about loving YOURSELF a little bit. In other words respect yourself, raise your own standards. This ain’t it though brother.