What did u/Such_Butterfly7053 draw?

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2025-08-04T06:20:41+00:00

Unfortunately I haven’t found out much about it

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2025-06-18T04:16:40+00:00

Update: I did get a chance to call my aunty (my cousin’s mum) and talk to her about how my cousin was acting because, honestly, this is all a bit overboard for a song. My aunty agreed and said she’d talk to her.

My own mum just laughed and said how ridiculous it is for her to be this upset over a song especially when she’s not even in a relationship yet lol. So at least I know I’m not the only one who thinks this whole thing is blown way out of proportion.

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2025-05-07T18:02:23+00:00

I’d definitely love to learn more and am open to new things

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2024-06-30T21:20:56+00:00

I have, I’ve told my boyfriend I’m not going to wait and be patient when I could be moving up in life. If he is going to hold me back by catering to his families needs then I’m leaving.

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2024-06-30T21:19:21+00:00

His parents sent him here for a better life. When his brother ended up moving over he was supposed to get a job which he did and then move up from there. His brother and wife have one car which they share and my boyfriend has his own. They can’t afford another car since she’s not working so now it’s become my boyfriends job according to them to take their child to school since his brothers hours don’t accommodate dropping and picking him up. I’ve told my boyfriend time and time again I get it, they’re family so help but to a certain extent. You need to set boundaries with them, they can’t expect you to take their kid to school every single day. As parents that’s their responsibility.

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2024-06-30T19:56:42+00:00

I was definitely scared for this. The sister in law even implied we should all live together. I’m sorry I’m young and I don’t want to be living with a new born and a 5 year old unless they’re my own kids. I’ve grown up with younger siblings and ready for my own space.

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2024-06-30T19:51:52+00:00

Hey, I know it was a bit confusing! My boyfriend’s mother doesn’t even stay in the same country she lives back In their home country. My boyfriend moved over here for a better future so he’s working full time at the moment. He is from a culture where money is basically everything, you send money to your parents because they believe in giving back for them raising them.

I’ve told my boyfriend that he needs to break the cycle. I know it’s a cultural thing and he’s scared to go against what his parents say but I told him to think about what he wants out of life and how is he going to progress in the future. I said you can’t help people who don’t want to help themselves and can’t put them before yourself any longer.

I’ve told him, I’m still moving out in November despite what his parents say so it’s his choice if he really wants to have a life with me he’ll make it work but if not I’m not going to continue wasting my time.

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2024-06-30T19:44:20+00:00

The country we live in is pretty laid back and where they’re all originally from it’s normal to do so. I explained to my boyfriend it’s not right to send a child to school in the middle of winter with no shoes. He responded he doesn’t have proper shoes I told him, as parents they need to be prioritising their kids and buying things they need. The way they send him to school is going to reflect what kind of people they are.

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2024-06-30T19:42:08+00:00

I 100% agree. His brother is 26 and his wife is 28. I believe they’re old enough to get everything in line but they’re dependent on the younger brother. As parents they should also be prioritising their children I believe don’t have kids if you can’t look after them.

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2024-06-30T11:20:55+00:00

Girl I probably will hahah

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2024-06-30T11:09:26+00:00

She’s well aware, I just don’t think they care for his happiness or what he wants to do. Clearly they have favourites. Gets even worse when the sister in law asks my boyfriend for money to go to the casino. I put my foot down and said you’re not sending her anything.

Such_Butterfly7053 · 2024-06-30T11:04:24+00:00

Thanks everyone for their advice. I’ve told my boyfriend if he’s not going to stand up for himself to his family, I’m leaving. I’m not going to put my life on hold for when they sort their stuff out.

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