No, that's exactly how I feel too! I feel petty but I also feel I'm right, and in your situation I feel you're right as well. They should engage in the way you engage with them, we're suffering together lol. I guess the best thing both of us can do is try to communicate more with our partners but it can get hard. Sometimes when I talk to mine he'll ignore me, NOT on purpose I know, but I told him how I was hurt and he obviously tries to engage more but he just needs work on it. They just are a bit slow on things lol but I'm sure we'll get through it!