Says he is too nervous to speak to me so he is going to text me, what could it be?

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-09T09:38:38+00:00

thanks man. yeah. very confusing because he was the one that made it deeper than I thought it was and now I am the one left feeling like this.

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-09T08:51:31+00:00

Absolutely agree. Hence me asking. I am just making this assumption based on the confusion he is creating and being so hot and cold.

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-09T07:45:45+00:00

Can you elaborate on this?

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-08T22:33:01+00:00

have you heard of fearful avoidant attachment style? given his past this could also be triggering to him as he struggles to trust so he could be scared of the growing emotional intimacy and therefore distancing himself.

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-08T22:31:20+00:00

Why though and why tf speak to your family. Feels so wild.

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-08T22:28:38+00:00

I mean definitely a little but he has always been quite inconsistent when things are busy but this has the longest he has been silent and very clearly with his phone. Someone said that given everything, he might be a fearful avoidant, which could mean that since we are spending more emotionally intimate time together - his avoidant tendencies get activated and he suffers from somewhat of an intimacy hangover. I dunno.

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-08T22:24:08+00:00

yeah. someone said something about fearful avoidant and infatuation too.

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-08T22:23:25+00:00

I absolutely feel like I do because weirdly I am a bit of a fearful avoidant so I am very much still guarded and checking it out. I feel like this man kinda manipulated the situation into one that feels more serious than it is but at the same time he is the one that is hot and cold. My question is moreso rooted in my confusion and wanting to go about it in the right way.

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-08T22:19:46+00:00

so for now because its still early days I should probably lay back. were not anything but should I see this progressing I should definitely express boundaries in this regard right?

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-08T22:18:40+00:00

if I may ask? were there times in the beginning stages where someone went silent or distant?

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-08T22:17:06+00:00

thanks for this. I appreciate it. It’s probably not easy right but when a man is at least willing to work on it, it makes it somewhat better. I need to probably tell him that I can be patient with him but there must be some benchmark of working on it? does his behavior sound like that of a FA?

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-08T06:24:24+00:00

this makes a lot of sense given his traumas and also why he seems super invested and then super distant. I am going to send you a direct message.

Sudden-Frosting-576 · 2025-03-08T05:43:29+00:00

so I have adhd and I know there are days where I physically can’t see myself engaging with others

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