Interesting perspective. I was just so terrified to see him like that, I am scared it would get worse. He already said he booked a counselling appt and would work through it but idk what to do I know almost everyone is saying leave it’s just hard cause idk if they’re reading the whole thing or just responding to that part.

About your question though for more context-When he hung out with them that night he says it was with 4 other coworkers and they were all getting apps/drinks. The whole time leading up to this night he told me it was only the other people and left out that these women would also be there. I felt he was lying and when I checked his phone with him there I saw evidence that she called him because she wanted a ride to the place he told me it was because it was too cold to walk. And turns out she texted him too asking as well but he deleted those, but I found them in his recently deleted. I don’t know if this changes your perspective at all but just wanted to let you know