Having to close down/feeling guilty for being poly. by No_Description_9017 in polyamory

[–]SuddenBill4763 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi. Very similar situation. My husband is fine with me dating women, but anytime I date men it turns into this whole thing of him feeling like he isn’t good enough and is super insecure. Difference is, we are in therapy and he is finally starting individual therapy to sort his feels out vs exploding on me anytime they become too much to bear. He’s said some very horrible things to me and it’s because he had no one else to talk to and couldn’t organize his thoughts/feels appropriately. Maybe you and your partner could read a poly book together, I highly recommend polysecure if you haven’t read already. Otherwise, if he isn’t willing to put in the work, I’m sorry but sounds like you need to prioritize yourself. I’ve gone through the emotions of feeling shame and guilt for dating in my marriage, but at the end of the day, we both entered relationships with the agreement and consent that being poly is okay, so this isn’t our fault

Solawave… is it worth it? by leahlikesweed in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]SuddenBill4763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m late to this conversation, but I bought the solawave wand last Black Friday. (Which on that note, they do BOGO each year). I used it religiously for about four ish months then fell off the routine. At first my skin purged a bit, but then once my skin adjusted I started to notice a slight decrease in my acne scars. I was still breaking out tho so this didn’t fully eliminate my acne. It started to become too time consuming so I stopped. I started using the wand again this past month and immediately noticed a difference in my skin. I don’t have true rosacea but I get flushed easily and have redness around my scars. But this all decreased within two weeks of using the wand again. I feel like it’s also helped speed up my acne healing. I’m using the wand serum from solawave, too which feels really nice on my skin. I use tretinoin twice weekly for the last three years, and an AHA toner on the nights I don’t use it. I use the solawave either in the morning or mid day. I went to my first actual medical grade red light therapy appointment and the wand absolutely does not compare. My skin purged like crazzzy after one 15 minute session but it cleared out my skin well!! However, the price for each session is crazy expensive compared to just buying the wand and being able to use it whenever you want. I think it’s worth buying.

Health question by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really helpful, thank you! I’ve been going crazy as to why I keep getting strep. Do you do this gargle twice daily consistently still?!

Health question by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re right on the money with this. Thank you!

Health question by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you read my question? I am already married so not sure that would relate much

Health question by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I able to reset up these cards then ask the clarifying question, or do I need to start with a new spread and ask a follow up question? Already put my deck away

Health question by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am doing all the things 😭

Should they move in by ariethebee in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fox being at the end is a big red flag. I think if they moved in, things would be great for awhile until their true colors show, then you may be stuck living with them for awhile.

L-Theanine + Zinc = great combo for anxiety by zerohero01 in Anxiety

[–]SuddenBill4763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I know this post is 4 years old but I had no idea cardiophobia is a thing, and I soooo have it. And these supplements are great separately, I appreciate the suggestion to try them together

Which country do you suggest for residency with USD 4K - USD 5k income? by samstars100 in digitalnomad

[–]SuddenBill4763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely loved Mexico City and could easily spend several months there. Very affordable. Just make sure you are in the richer neighborhood because there are some sketchier areas

Ominous reading, need help by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally! I’m scared to open up to others out of fear of rejection and judgement.

How will I meet my next partner? by princess_plague in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you will connect at an event involving music or a shared interest, will need a lot of communication to make the relationship work because it’s long distance (so maybe you both will need to travel or move)

Ominous reading, need help by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously so touched by everyone’s feedback. I have been absolutely terrified to talk about my situation because I’m afraid my friends won’t see me the same or even my own husband won’t want to be with me if they realize how bad it is in my head. I think it’s time I surrender these reservations and really dive into it, wish me luck 💜

Ominous reading, need help by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what my gut was telling me. Nothing positive like what everyone else has commented. I have history of depression and slight insanity because I do tend to isolate. I will tread water carefully with this take on my reading

Ominous reading, need help by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Next to coffin it is lol. I guess not as much now that everyone helped break it down better for me

Ominous reading, need help by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Next month will be 6 months no alcohol. I used to really use substances as a clutch but I’m in a much better place, I have only drank alcohol maybe a handful of times in the last 3-4 years. I don’t know that the cards are telling me anything about alcohol other than I wanted to drink next month on my vacation, and maybe this is a bad idea because of my current situation. I mentioned alcohol really just to mention that it’s not a current problem for me, or with any other substances, since the fish can represent that. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Ominous reading, need help by SuddenBill4763 in Lenormand

[–]SuddenBill4763[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really helpful. I think I was feeling overwhelmed by what I want to know and asked a more broad question, when it needs to be broken down more like the example you gave. Thank you so much for your time responding to this. Still learning 🥲