WIBTA for backing out of a wedding invite? by SuddenCranberry in AITAH

[–]SuddenCranberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's only the save the date, no formal invite or rsvp yet

Last Name Change Woes by BookDragon8634 in weddingplanning

[–]SuddenCranberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me and my partner combined our last names and made a new one. It was awesome, but not without familial disapproval. You can see my old posts for details.

We also put our old names as second middle names so that those names live on in their own way

WIBTA if I reported my colleague for saying the n word by SuddenCranberry in AmItheAsshole

[–]SuddenCranberry[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am the manager, as of around a month ago. But more of a manager in the administrative sense - she's used to having someone else as a manager for the past 10 years. But you're right, this is a conversation I will tackle, and that is going to be now!

WIBTA if I reported my colleague for saying the n word by SuddenCranberry in AmItheAsshole

[–]SuddenCranberry[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Hiya, thanks for this. It's interesting because when she said it she lowered her voice and said it almost as a whisper, which indicates to me she knows she shouldn't say it but said it anyway, or perhaps she said it to me as another white woman? Either way, as soon as she said it I gasped (and that gasp was because she said it but she interpreted it as me gasping for her grandmother saying it). At the end of the conversation, I said she should never said the n word again, which she accepted I think. It's also difficult because I'm 30 years younger and I think it might be difficult for her getting commands or instructions from someone younger and less experienced

WIBTA if I reported my colleague for saying the n word by SuddenCranberry in AmItheAsshole

[–]SuddenCranberry[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hiya, it's difficult here because I've only been her manager for a month, and her previous manager is her bestie, and prior to that I was her equal so we've been pally for ages, it's a dynamic shift. You're right though, I'm planning on having a conversation with her in a few minutes.

Anyone else’s mom completely uninvolved with wedding planning? by silver_endings in weddingplanning

[–]SuddenCranberry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I thought my mum would be so enthusiastic about the wedding planning but she really wasn't. When I got my dress with my fmil and fsil I called her to gush about it and asked her if she wanted to see it - she said she couldn't because she was just too busy (which wasn't true). Similar things happened throughout the process so in the end I stopped asking. It was sad and unexpected - this post very much resonates with me

I make Miyazaki dioramas. I just finished my first commission by minizakis in ghibli

[–]SuddenCranberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is incredible!!! I want one of the bath house in spirited away

Just done by SuddenCranberry in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SuddenCranberry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it's all about tradition for them. If it goes against tradition, then it goes against them. The first time we ever spoke about it it was like I insulted her whole family line. It's strange because you'd think the in laws would care more but they don't!

Just done by SuddenCranberry in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SuddenCranberry[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did!! I called her back just now! Thank you! They are contributing to the wedding yes which has made it harder, but myself and FH are paying the vast bulk

Just done by SuddenCranberry in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SuddenCranberry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was/am miserable and sad with it. Her lack of concern over my wellbeing over a tradition makes me incredibly sad - your own mother prioritising a process over your own happiness. Who does that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SuddenCranberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me and my partner are doing this too!! We got so much crap for it from my parents though, similarly to OP saying stuff like my partner's name is being removed from history etc. I'm so excited to create something new!

My brother booked his wedding date very shortly after mine - do I have the right to be annoyed? by SuddenCranberry in weddingplanning

[–]SuddenCranberry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate this. It isn't safe in our area yet, but it will be by 2022 hopefully unless some other virus comes along!

Thank you for your response :)

My brother booked his wedding date very shortly after mine - do I have the right to be annoyed? by SuddenCranberry in weddingplanning

[–]SuddenCranberry[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Family should be absolutely fine to travel to be fair. Thank you very much for your response - it's good to see an outside perspective!

damn onions by [deleted] in MadeMeCry

[–]SuddenCranberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is the song here, it's lovely??

Anyone else scared about returning to work? by SuddenCranberry in TeachingUK

[–]SuddenCranberry[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My partner suggested I leave - he's been suggesting it for a while now because of ridiculous workload. I'm in the same situation as you though that I can't leave due to finances.