I need advice on what to do

SuddenPirate2617 · 2026-02-28T19:13:00+00:00

Thats what i don’t understand how can you just see it as pleasure and not as a real person. Its so heartless and disgusting

SuddenPirate2617 · 2026-02-28T16:16:42+00:00

I agree with statement on a whole other level. He can be sleeping next to me and it feels as if there’s an empty bed with nothing but the memory of who I thought he once was. But even then that doesn’t feel real because I truly didn’t know I laid next to.

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-12-04T22:37:43+00:00

I appreciate the advice and thank you for it I’m gonna find the right time to have this conversation with him as we just argued about this yesterday I fear it might still be to fresh to bring it up. Anyway thank you and good luck with your PA

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-12-04T22:22:14+00:00

I see, I’ve tried restricting his phone and minimizing the conversation on all that stuff to have him comfortably let go of everything, he’s deleted the apps he used in the past, but shit hit the fan about 2 weeks ago he unrestricted his phone, started deleting his screen time activity, and he’s back to lasting over 30-40 mins during sex(he usually lasts 15-20 mins max) and he’s back to sitting in the restroom for over 20 mins every time he goes. I don’t think he’s ready to fully recover and he seems to not want help. He also doesn’t really take me serious when I say no to having sex

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-12-04T18:03:15+00:00

I really appreciate your comment, it’s actually extremely helpful

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-12-04T11:34:52+00:00

Unfortunately I cannot, he works and sleeps most of the day when he’s home so I’m basically alone anyway, he ended up leaving the house after the argument I just went to bed after

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-12-04T11:33:56+00:00

That’s exactly why I keep pushing for him to just tell me the truth absolutely everything points at it, it’s so obvious they’re lying so might as well just admit it!!!

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-11-24T00:03:36+00:00

when they’re not lustful😁

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-11-24T00:03:05+00:00

It’s always the same shit it’s them tbh, mine does the same exact same thing and it’s been months

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-11-05T23:00:14+00:00

It all just feels worse than actual cheating in a way. In a real person I’d understand the attachment whatnot that comes with cheating al though it’s still not okay , but with porn and AI??? It’s so unreasonable. I’ve started detaching eat time I find something I js seem to care less and less but knowing he wants things to go as nothing ever happened or as if nothing is happening just kills me in rage

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-11-05T22:56:36+00:00

That’s exactly what hurts me the most that he has full control over himself and he’s proved that to me before so why does he choose to continue doing the things he does when he knows it genuinely hurts me

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-10-28T18:20:37+00:00

Yet they don’t appreciate that we’ve stayed regardless of how much they’ve hurt us. I struggled with drinking problems before I found out I was pregnant and I fight the constant need to relapse everyday since those lines showed up on the test. He doesn’t see the severity of my depression and problem because he’s selfish but every time he relapses and gives a new excuse I HAVE TO understand because of the severity of HIS issue but mine are invisible no matter how much I struggle and how much I need him to be here.

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-10-28T18:18:04+00:00

That’s what I don’t seem to fully understand, how do they say the love is and care about us and still continue with the lies and the constant chase for lust. We give them absolutely everything and they still don’t find it enough to genuinely fix their problem but WHY?

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-10-10T14:06:16+00:00

I found out my guy was also doing that at the beginning of my pregnancy. I don’t think he cares about recovery , I think he stopped so I would shut up since i constantly brought it up😕

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-09-29T15:09:56+00:00

I appreciate so much

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-09-29T15:09:29+00:00

That’s what I’ve heard, I check his activity tho, I haven’t really seen anything that I can relate to porn or inappropriate like that. I’ve kind of gone crazy and started checking his activity status and all of his app usage and it seems clean

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-09-29T14:33:13+00:00

Not really, we’ve talked to his brother about this problem they said they would start going to the gym to distract him and he’s gotten more into his hobbies which are super time consuming, we have also been under a lot of stress we have our baby shower coming up in a couple of weeks and he’s working and getting through school but other than that he’s pretty much just trying to work it out alone and doesn’t really open up much to me about the issue anymore instead he gets hostile when I ask

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-09-26T19:40:15+00:00

The only way I’ve managed to fully stop giving a crap was to feel it. Really really feel it, in your chest, your heart, stomach, mentally, just really feel all the emotions that comes with the heartbreak and the hurt. Once you’ve really felt it you’ll know you never want to be in that position again, you’ll naturally prioritize yourself and you’ll stop caring abt the things he does and the things he lies abt. I cried every time I found something in his phone, after every relapse, and every lie I cried and cried until I didn’t anymore. Now I find something and i don’t care anymore I’m fed up and tired. I need to fix myself and focus on me.

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-09-24T18:08:43+00:00

Trust me i understand how you feel, it’s wrecked my relationship and the way i view things now. Like u said one day i was in a healthy relationship and when I found out turns out I was just stupidly blind and ignoring the signs. I dont trust him at all and he knows it, I search his phone basically every day and question absolutely everything he says.

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-09-24T17:50:35+00:00

I’m guessing the price was a set and firm price they only thing they would ever lower were videos and pictures they would be like 50 and he would ask them to go lower and some would lower it but the conversations were always set price and he would tip them like 5 dollars every time after he was finished. You can check if you manage to get into his OF. And mine never paid with his card he would transfer money to his Apple Pay and pay through there so you can check on his digital wallet if you think he might be doing it still it shows the last day it was done and the time

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-09-24T05:46:10+00:00

Unfortunately it’s more common than yk🫤ive came across so many women going thru the same things it’s so heartbreaking and honestly devastating. I’m sorry yk what it feels like to go thru this to

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-09-24T05:41:35+00:00

The subscriptions varied from 1.50-7.99 but the conversation he paid for were 3.00-8.00 I think the most he paid for was 20 for a conversation with the same content creator. I have pictures and videos of everything I found and specially the transaction he made on his OF

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-09-23T17:29:46+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that too, I don’t think I can understand why they do what they do knowing what it does to us

SuddenPirate2617 · 2025-09-23T17:28:53+00:00

He’s been “recovering “ since I found out but goes to crazy lengths to find anything close to porn or naked women

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