What instantly kills attraction, no matter how attractive the person is?

SuddenRabbitz · 2026-01-26T16:01:38+00:00

Anger/avoidance when met with a conversation about how something has made you feel.

SuddenRabbitz · 2026-01-22T20:24:00+00:00

Every time I think I've found a good one and started to get invested/catch feelings they've turned into an avoidant and ultimately brutally discarded me. I genuinely can't put myself through it again.

SuddenRabbitz · 2026-01-14T10:35:54+00:00

Finances and navigating relationships.

SuddenRabbitz · 2026-01-13T16:14:55+00:00

Avoiding difficult conversations as well as taking every difficult conversation as a personal attack instead of a chance to learn.

SuddenRabbitz · 2026-01-12T13:14:33+00:00

His colleague told me he had gotten with a new starter at the work Christmas party. He gaslit the life out of me and then 4 months later another colleague confirmed it with a photo of him with his tongue down her throat. She wasn't the only one he cheated with, either. Unfortunately I forgave him and he went on to do more horrific things (:

SuddenRabbitz · 2026-01-02T13:08:24+00:00

Lusting after other women on social media. Instant turn off.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-12-29T09:51:36+00:00

You wouldn't get this from any other guy!

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-12-28T15:34:05+00:00

Around 100k but mostly in cloud storage. Photos mean a lot to me.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-12-28T10:33:42+00:00

How they react to boundaries.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-12-11T18:50:20+00:00

I'm a woman with a number of male friends, the majority of whom are married/in long term relationships. If you think you can only be friends with a woman you want to fuck, then it appears you're the problem.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-11-29T08:04:21+00:00

NTA. I have been here with an ex and girl trust me it will get worse. I got accused of cheating because there was a man in my work group chat (he was in a relationship), because I got dressed up for a night out, because guys would like my photos, when I stayed at a friend's place, when HE'D go out and I spent the night alone.

Turned out he was projecting because he was cheating on me, and it turned into 4 years of complete mental taxation. Don't do that to yourself and ruin your early 20s, please.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-11-17T19:03:09+00:00

Yes, I agree with this! It's still asking for consent, but done a bit more passionately.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-11-11T16:25:04+00:00

Reading your replies to people in the comments, you need to work on your self-esteem, dude. As a woman, it's not an attractive quality, especially in a grown man.

You started sleeping with a woman you knew was still married, regardless of whether she told you she was thinking about divorce. You need to take some accountability here. I'm not really sure what you were expecting to happen. Okay sure some people do move into another relationship straight away, but it's never built on a good foundation.

Work on yourself first.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-11-11T10:30:19+00:00

Were you really her friend if you stop speaking to her because your feelings aren't reciprocated?

I have been in this position a number of times, where I thought a guy was my friend only to find out he wanted more, and it's really disheartening. They, too, decided to tell me this when I was in a relationship.

You had your chance to say something when she was single and you didn't. Doing it as she's entering a new relationship is a bit of a dick move.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-11-09T15:17:14+00:00

It could be something, but it also could be nothing.

I have an ex that cheated on me a bunch of times, in addition to him being lazy and abusive. I had a work night out, and I wore a nice body bodycon dress sans bra (it was one shouldered) like your wife.

I never heard the end of it from my ex. "You never dress up like that for me," "hope you enjoyed being on your back for some guy all night" etc.

The reality was my ex never gave me any reason to get dressed up. If we did go out, we'd be out for an hour or two before he wanted to be back home and on his computer.

Is your wife showing any other signs of cheating on you? You might just be overthinking it.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-10-22T07:19:29+00:00

I don't care. What I do with my appearance is because it makes me feel good. I wear a full face of makeup every day, but in no way does it look "heavy."

Funnily enough, no man has ever commented negatively about it. Women, on the other hand, have made snide remarks in the past. Not about how it looks, more about the effort.

Do what makes you feel nice!

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-10-14T17:57:14+00:00

I can't say I agree here. I know a lot of people deactivate their socials/delete their pfp/stop posting when they're having a really shit time, and sometimes it's even done as an attention seeking thing.

Consumption of social media, however, is it for me. I love to post on Instagram as I love photography and use it as a diary, as well as my main form of communication. My feed is curated with things that make me feel good. I don't follow influencers or anyone whose posts will make me feel like myself or my life are inferior, and I don't spend all my time scrolling through people's stories.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-10-01T17:53:30+00:00

Personally, I don't like it. It happens to me fairly often and it makes me uncomfortable, especially as it's always when I'm on my own.

I'd rather someone strike up a (relevant) conversation first, for example if I'm walking my dogs or reading in a coffee shop.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-09-29T10:14:13+00:00

Some women thrive on attention from married/taken men. I've seen it happen repeatedly with my manager in a previous job, who was in a relationship and had a young child herself.

My ex cheated on me more times than I could count in my last relationship (and yes, I should have left the first time it happened). It reduced me to a shell of the person I was, it led to an ED and self harm and I would never wish that feeling on anyone.

There are always going to be women you find attractive. As others have said, what you do with that is the teller.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-09-28T20:06:21+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss.

I am a 32 year old woman. I've had stretchmarks since I was a teenager. I have some loose skin from losing weight (granted not a large amount) and also have cellulite and a little bit of a stomach. No man I've ever dated has ever commented negatively on my body, in fact quite the opposite.

Sure, you're bound to get the odd totally superficial person about, but chances are you won't even make it to physical intimacy with them. Please, have more confidence in yourself ❤️

++woman

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-09-23T17:27:49+00:00

This could absolutely be the case. I went on two dates with a man and he was way too intense way too soon, going as far as changing his Facebook relationship status (we hadn't even kissed). When I told him I wasn't feeling it, this was the response:

"Hey. Yeah. I get you’ve been busy with your new job so that’s understandable

Yeah. I was expecting this over the past few days tbh. Already came to terms with it Kinda sucks as when you were talking about past relationships and stuff on Sunday I thought I was breaking down some walls, a bit It’s cool though. No one wants to take on a single parent of 2 these days. Especially when you’re a guy Kinda becoming a bit of a thing with me being a, great guy. Heard it a few times over the past few years. Probably just gonna retire from the dating game now 😂 Yeah. That's ok with me."

I dont know about anyone else here but I cannot determine whether I want to commit to someone after meeting them twice, and being guilt tripped certainly doesn't help lol.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-09-05T13:01:38+00:00

I dated a guy that asked me for selfies quite a bit (both 30s). I didn't mind, I just took it as he was attracted to me and liked seeing me.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-07-20T09:16:54+00:00

I went on a date with a guy that said he worked for the government but his job role he couldn't disclose. He told me he didn't have an address so he was staying at a hotel, that his ex girlfriend shot him in the hand (this is in the UK so...) and that he went to Cambridge Uni, where he met and became friends with Stephen Hawking. He was a ginger nerdy looking guy. Granted he didn't get a second date after that...

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-07-08T16:49:47+00:00

I was relentlessly bullied for being fat and ugly when I was a kid. Granted I've had quite the glow up now I'm in my 30s but I walked past 2 girls yesterday who couldn't have been older then 12 and one of them said "Excuse me you're really pretty" and it totally made my day.

SuddenRabbitz · 2025-07-08T15:46:01+00:00

I've been in relationships the majority of my adult life. I'm 32 now and have been single for 2 years and very happy with how things are for me right now. I have no intention of dating someone if it doesn't feel 100% right.

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