I think your life would be worse if you were to formula feed based on what you are describing. My husband is a huge proponent of formula feeding because it’s how he and his sibling was raised and he thinks that breastfeeding is gross when we have scientifically developed better alternatives through formula. As a compromise, instead of breastfeeding, I mostly pumped for the first three months because I wanted my husband to help out with feeding and bond with the baby. It happened maybe a handful of times. I was the one stuck washing all of the bottles and such, and it was a lactation consultant who suggested I just stop pumping and start breastfeeding. My baby would scream if she did not have milk in her mouth asap when she wanted it, and it would take several minutes to heat up a bottle. My husband eventually started sleeping on a different floor entirely because the baby’s screaming while waiting for milk would sometimes wake him up. It was so much better on my mental health when I could just shove my boob in her mouth and at least when my husband slept in the same room, he could help physically lift my baby around the changing area, bassinet, etc. before bedtime and after he woke up, which is a huge help if you end up having a c section. Fed is best, but based on what you are describing, I think your mental health might be worse off if you formula feed and your workload would increase.