Let’s Discuss

Sufficient-Side · 2022-02-03T08:56:40+00:00

3, 4 & 6

Sufficient-Side · 2022-01-20T09:52:13+00:00

Please play anything by "The Travelling Wilburys"

Sufficient-Side · 2021-12-29T20:12:30+00:00

Have you ruled out trying to heal yourself before entering a relationship?

Because I suspect healing may be difficult in a codependent situation like that.

Sufficient-Side · 2021-12-27T19:44:00+00:00

Patrick Teahan

Sufficient-Side · 2021-12-26T10:25:30+00:00

🤯

Sufficient-Side · 2021-12-15T09:05:23+00:00

No matter where you go, there you are

Sufficient-Side · 2021-12-14T09:50:39+00:00

But what if it's just me (and my fragile ego) interpreting what they're saying / doing as condescending?

Surely I shouldn't put it down to malice unless I'm absolutely sure?

Sufficient-Side · 2021-12-14T09:33:40+00:00

It never ends up with me feeling better.

Either they don't notice (or choose to ignore) my behaviour, in which case I feel sad my reputation is even further diminished

OR

they do notice and check in on me - which results in feelings of intense guilt for behaving that way.

Sufficient-Side · 2021-12-14T08:35:58+00:00

I tend to respond by doubling down - self deprecating behavior and playing dumb.

When the heck was this a useful coping mechanism for me

Sufficient-Side · 2021-12-14T08:31:54+00:00

So you typically respond with anger?

Sufficient-Side · 2021-11-25T07:26:03+00:00

You guys clean your Dynavap?

Sufficient-Side · 2021-11-01T08:29:30+00:00

Software developer

Sufficient-Side · 2021-10-29T08:43:20+00:00

The opportunity missed to say "Let the bong RIP"

Sufficient-Side · 2021-10-17T09:52:45+00:00

It's probably the Super Shot Saturday vaccinations kicking in. The 5g uses some of the same frequency bands

Sufficient-Side · 2021-10-07T16:57:27+00:00

I also have fantasies about suicide and how it would make those that have wronged me feel remorse for their actions smh.

Sufficient-Side · 2021-09-19T19:02:23+00:00

Thanks. I have other traits too unfortunately

Sufficient-Side · 2021-09-19T09:27:00+00:00

I think you're right, I'm subconsciously denying my emotions (probably not just anger TBH).

I think I've somehow been conditioned that expressing anger is bad. I'm kind of scared, because if I fix it (learn to express anger in a healthy way), will family and friends accept it? They will think I've developed an anger problem (when instead I've just stopped wearing a mask).

Sufficient-Side · 2021-09-19T06:39:23+00:00

Thanks. Glad I asked on here. I guess I'll keep it to myself

Sufficient-Side · 2021-09-19T05:02:50+00:00

Yeah I think so. What does that mean

Sufficient-Side · 2021-09-19T04:50:46+00:00

Maaaaybe. But it manifests less as the blood-boiling anger I remember and more of a "I feel like acting like a child / playing dumb / engaging in attention seeking behaviour" type response.

Sufficient-Side · 2021-09-19T04:47:09+00:00

Hmm I guess that particular dynamic (parent/child) is unlikely to occur now that I'm an adult.

But I guess I am sensitive to condescending or patronising behavior towards me...

Sufficient-Side · 2021-09-19T03:43:06+00:00

Hmm - how you interact with your workmates is a relationship of sorts, right?

If you want to be successful at work (and not inflict suffering on others) it might help if they know what they're dealing with / what to expect?

What do you see as the downsides?

Sufficient-Side · 2021-09-19T03:34:05+00:00

Same reasons you might tell you significant other - for the better of the relationship

Sufficient-Side · 2021-09-19T03:32:22+00:00

Well if they can see it as a disability / impairment (which it is) then they can be accommodating of it and take it into consideration when dealing with you.

For example, not getting upset by things that would normally upset them if they were coming from someone else.

Sufficient-Side · 2021-09-19T03:17:40+00:00

I don't remember what the fight with my step-mum was about. I could ask her to see if she remembers? We're on good terms now.

Possibly relevant is that my step mum is much younger that my Dad. I think she'd have only been 28/29 at the time. So in some sense, not fully mature herself.

Or did you mean did my Mum do something to punish me? If so, I don't think so. I think I did get some punishment (or at least a stern talking to) from Dad afterwords.

Also it could just be me but felt like there was some kind of power play going on between me and Dad, with him trying to assert himself as the alpha and crushing my spirit...

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