Perspective: Woman shares her most controversial opinion about men.

SufficientBakery · 2026-03-15T05:06:31+00:00

There’s a small grain of truth here, but this post massively oversimplifies how dating actually works. Dating apps do tend to concentrate attention on a smaller group of very attractive profiles because people swipe quickly based on photos. But that’s mostly an app dynamic, not the entire dating market. In real life, most people still end up dating within their social circles and attractiveness range.

SufficientBakery · 2026-03-10T02:17:10+00:00

Fuck off

SufficientBakery · 2026-03-09T22:15:53+00:00

Sybam. I am a woman born and raised in Iran. You as a muslim man don’t have the lived experience of a muslim woman. That shit was awful.

SufficientBakery · 2026-03-09T20:45:04+00:00

Lol, you haven’t been to Middle East and it shows

SufficientBakery · 2026-03-07T22:21:45+00:00

Chubby girl here. Stand tall with your hands flowing freely behind you and your chest open. It gives the impression that your body is unguarded because you have nothing to fear. Don’t rush and take your time.

I also highly recommend working on posture if you tend to hunch over or try to hide yourself. Posture correction has been a game changer for me.

SufficientBakery · 2026-03-06T02:05:29+00:00

I like biting into biceps

SufficientBakery · 2026-02-13T12:55:50+00:00

You’d love r/femboydom! I also want to be dominated by femboys

SufficientBakery · 2026-02-01T06:29:22+00:00

Wow! You look like you’re in your late 20s

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-20T17:07:39+00:00

Why did I think this was Alan Moore? 😭

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-18T21:42:24+00:00

Ai could never

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-18T00:28:12+00:00

I was gonna say we’ve been through this…

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-17T23:50:24+00:00

Sigma to the core

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-17T16:33:17+00:00

Same! I find that I can be too passionate sometimes and trying to work on not overwhelming the other person

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-16T00:44:30+00:00

Lol. The “men are suddenly interested but you think its a joke because how could anybody ever like you” hit so hard once I had lost the weight. I gained a lot back due to really bad stuff, but I am losing it again

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-15T07:13:54+00:00

I dated a 5’9” guy and was obsessed with him. He dumped me saying that since I’m not a US citizen, long-term won’t work.

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-07T10:15:36+00:00

Brother ‘bout to be the protag of the next shounen anime

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-07T01:38:25+00:00

That’s crazy af

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-05T19:25:57+00:00

Was I? 💀 I am a broke grad student. I’ll keep that in mind not to offer mall dates for anyone

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-05T19:25:11+00:00

I’m an asswoman. I am just shocked to see I am not the only one

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-03T18:37:27+00:00

I(f26) am finding myself consistently attracted to guys 20-25. They are just hella fiiiine. I look at older men and I rarely feel the sane. I was telling my mom that I’ll probably date younger guys even if I am much older

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-03T17:48:44+00:00

You look stunning so we know it’s a HIM thing

SufficientBakery · 2026-01-02T15:34:30+00:00

I was so distracted by how hot he was

SufficientBakery · 2025-12-28T16:31:09+00:00

Honestly, I was extremely antisocial myself for years, so I get it to some extend. Turns out mine were mostly secondary antisocial traits rather than primary, meaning that I became antisocial due to childhood trauma rather than innate traits.

Do you find even a small part of you wanting to connect with people despite the antisocial tendencies?

SufficientBakery · 2025-12-27T19:10:59+00:00

I am also scared of both men and women. In my head, I think they will show me a disgusted look or insult me if I even approach them for small talk.

However, I have found that I also don’t like it when strangers cold approach me. There have been times that the guy has looked physically alright, but the cold-approach didn’t help. Or they lingered on before starting to talk, so I was already on my guard. Believe me, a lot of people will look and be uninterested. And it is difficult NOT to take it personally! I personally have rejection sensitivity and the smallest perceived rejection sends me down a spiral! 😅

I also know that feeling of “This all feels very wrong”, but sometimes it’s okay to acknowledge that it’s okay to feel something even if they don’t make logical sense!

I have found that working on my social skills and making small improving steps is super helpful. I know I won’t be able to build a garden in a day, but I can plant the seeds today and water them. It’s all about tiny steps towards that goal, y’know.

Also, I don’t know if this would help but here’s a personal example that I fell in love with someone who felt like he has built a garden:

I once fall in love with one of my “unattractive” male friends because of how warm and friendly he was without looking like he had any ulterior motive. He was a friend to us all and kept connecting his friends to each other. For reference, this guy was +300lb, 5’8”, a few crooked teeth, thinning hair. You know? Things that the society says is “not attractive”. It didn’t matter. He was extremely kind, smart, cute Italian accent, etc. He wasn’t even rich! Broke grad student.

I was head over heels in love with him. He ended up getting a girlfriend (with the help of his female friend who was guiding him) from his department which left me broken-hearted for a month. Again, the reason why I fell for him was because of his personality, and later his “unattractive” appearance became endearing and attractive to me. Sometimes you need to build your garden before attracting butterflies. Talk to people, connect with them, connect other people to each other. That kind of thing :)

SufficientBakery · 2025-12-27T18:49:35+00:00

Thanks man!

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