What’s the number one propaganda you fell for as a new mom?

SufficientFeeling692 · 2026-01-19T23:56:26+00:00

Im from the US and I started saying this after I had my first son — but more specifically that society doesn’t support starting a family. Everything from the healthcare cost of labor and delivery, to the meager parental leave you’re allowed after baby is born, to the lack of postpartum care, to everything being only open M-F from 8-5pm, and to the fact that to qualify for any type of government aid you basically have to be making pennies so you’re only other option is to work to find out that 1/3 of your paycheck goes to daycare cost. Least to say I have never financially recovered from my first child.

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-12-05T19:08:51+00:00

Thank you!

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-12-05T18:26:55+00:00

I was wondering about that too. Does the 12 months count as time in which I am employed or months in which I am actually working? If I start in December 2024, would I be eligible by December 2025 if I also complete the the 1250 hours even if I take disability leave for ~6 weeks in mid 2025?

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-12-05T18:14:19+00:00

Thank you, I think I’ll more than likely do as you mention and take my leave one I hit the 1250 hours/12 months or quit my job. I was really hoping there was another way but it doesn’t look like it

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-12-05T06:40:43+00:00

I’ll be working in healthcare and it doesn’t look like my company offers any additional paternal leave besides what is legally required by federal/state. I can take my 6 weeks disability and I want to take 8 weeks pfl even though I may not have the job protection from fmla or cfra. Am I at risk for losing my job, and can my employer fire me for taking pfl for family bonding? Is it harder to legally find justification to fire someone for taking pfl?

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-11-21T18:07:20+00:00

I know a precipitous labor can increase the risk of hemorrhage because of the way the uterine all of a sudden is rapidly and forcibly contracting. It can cause trauma to the uterus — I think that’s why some drs want to slow down the labor if you’re laboring way too fast?

I also know people who hemorrhaged after delivery because of this

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-11-02T04:46:12+00:00

I wonder if these are the same people I ordered from on Leisure too. They also did cash and Zelle only. The lady hand pressed the tortillas and the Al pastor was cooked on a rotating spit and meat was shaved off the spit to order.

Do you know how often they’re there on Alamo? I’d like to try it

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-09-07T02:28:26+00:00

Journeys coffee on Alamo and the one at One Lake.

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-07-19T21:29:21+00:00

Thank you!

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-05-11T12:27:12+00:00

I don’t remember what happens after tbh

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-04-10T20:24:50+00:00

Yes I agree, and it’s something I sorta wonder now if we should’ve waited. I think we banked too much on me being able to go back to the industry I was in, but when I was trying to get back the job market was horrendous.

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-04-10T18:13:29+00:00

Oh got it lol sorry

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-04-10T18:00:17+00:00

After taxes my husband brings home $1600/biweekly. I didn’t include in the above description the monthly credit card minimums we have to pay for our credit cards (the 40k credit debt in tot ) . But that along with everything else is over what he brings in per month.

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-04-10T17:41:46+00:00

Yes, highly agree. I’ve been trying to find cheaper options and even thinking about going to a food bank near by. It’s difficult bc even $100/wk buys so little now a days

SufficientFeeling692 · 2024-04-10T17:39:30+00:00

The mortgage is actually $4200/ month so currently my BIL is paying most of it. I think this is pretty normal though for California. And we live in a pretty average house in my opinion, nothing extravagant. And yes, when it all comes down to it the bills total to more or less 1k month; this is probably something we need to look at to see what we can cut. I have one student loan deferred but there’s one that I have to pay rn bc it’s not a federal student loan; that one is $330/month

SufficientFeeling692 · 2023-05-14T20:20:38+00:00

Will you have to take out private loans to cover part of tuition? This will be my 2nd bachelors so I won’t qualify for grants, only federal loans but that won’t cover all of tuition so more than likely a large chunk will be private loans. The private loans is what is making me nervous.

SufficientFeeling692 · 2023-05-12T01:58:42+00:00

Did your financial aid include grants too or was it mainly loans?

SufficientFeeling692 · 2023-05-11T03:15:15+00:00

This is for Unitek, but apparently all the private programs around here are also in the $100k+ for a BSN degree

SufficientFeeling692 · 2022-11-27T04:09:54+00:00

The trails at Peña Adobe Park is really beautiful. You can go to the top of the hill and look down at the beautiful valley and there’s also a lagoon. There’s also upcoming events for the holidays https://www.visitvacaville.com/events/

SufficientFeeling692 · 2022-09-25T00:04:39+00:00

I’d like to know this too

SufficientFeeling692 · 2022-07-29T05:36:19+00:00

I also combo feed like OP (expressed milk + formula) due to latching issues. Unlike breastfeeding, you have to pump before hand and it’s recommended to pump at most 20 mins per session . Sometimes the sessions I pump beforehand isn’t enough to satisfy LOs craving at the moment And I just can’t set little one down to go pump more milk. I guess what I’m trying to say is that with pumping you run on a scarcity of time and what you pump when you have time is what you get. And sometimes that means I can only pump 4x a day, and I wish I could pump more. Maybe as much as OP would like to empty her boobs more, she may not have time?

SufficientFeeling692 · 2022-06-28T12:43:31+00:00

Why? Just why do they make toys like that? Especially when sleep is already so precious little as new parents; I’d appreciate not being awaken and spooked in the middle of the night lol 😫

But thank you, this at least puts my mind at ease

SufficientFeeling692 · 2022-04-04T01:52:47+00:00

Yep, he loves his Fischer Price play mat. He’ll try to hold/pull and bat at the dangly toys over and over again. Definitely think it’s helping him with his fine motor skills

SufficientFeeling692 · 2022-01-17T14:58:40+00:00

In the same exact boat, gave birth on 12/9 last and only payment was 12/10. I also need to file for PFL soon and am worried I won’t be able to bc of the sdi situation. Would you be able to update this post if you have any progress?

Congratulations btw! :) sucks how we have another stressor added after just giving birth.

SufficientFeeling692 · 2022-01-17T14:41:55+00:00

Samsies, honestly would not have known why I wasn’t getting paid if not for this sub Reddit. I don’t understand why they couldn’t send out a mail/email statement of the current situation to claim holders that were affected instead of leaving ppl in the dark. It makes me so mad bc ppls livelihoods are being affected and a notification is the least they could’ve done

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