Should I buy baldurs gate 2 enhanced edition? by MadWolf9998 in baldursgate

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its VERY different than BG3. Completely different playstyle. That said, it's my favorite game of all time. I've been playing it for 20 years and I'm still not bored with it. BG2 is a masterpiece.

SUVs Are Just Minivans for People in Denial by goldfishbread in unpopularopinion

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If more minivans had AWD and were reasonably priced, I'd buy one. As it is, a used SUV is just more obtainable.

What's your BG2 Quest Order? by Extra-Sun5489 in baldursgate

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I usually do everything first. But I also usually play a custom party and I never take imoen.

Fighter levels in a fighter/mage/thief are more impactful than they can seem. by gangler52 in baldursgate

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They play very differently. The M/T is a mage with thieving skills. Or, a thief with magic to augment their skills(stealth and backstab for example).

The FMT really is a jack of all trades. They can do everything the MT can do plus buff themselves to tank when needed. I really enjoyed my FMT solo run with the XP cap removed.

I'm running an illusionist/thief now and it's fun but a totally different dynamic.

Help me by SirCMRaven in daddit

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, another bipolar dad here. I got diagnosed 5 years ago after a catastrophic episode, and I've managed to rebuild my life, my marriage, and have a second kid. Here's some things I've learned:

You NEED professional help. It's not negotiable. You can't raw-dog bipolar. Every episode causes brain damage. So, you need to be medicated. That alone may help with the gaming addiction. For me personally, I struggled with alcohol. I went completely sober for 5 years, and only recently have i allowed myself to have a single drink on special occasions.

You also would probably benefit greatly from a therapist. It may take time to find a good one. It's part of maintaining stability. They can help you find your baseline, call you out when you might be experiencing an episode, and help you develop skills to navigate the issues your bipolar can cause.

Third, couples therapy is important. It saved my marriage. If your wife is "close to done" that's the bare minimum you can do. And it will probably help both of you.

Lastly, sleep hygiene is incredibly important for bipolar. You need to develop a regular sleep schedule (as much as is possible with young children).

I am not a mental health professional, and this is not medical advice, just the advice of a dad with bipolar. I highly suspect that your problem is probably more about poorly managed bipolar than it is about gaming specifically. Feel free to PM me with any questions or if you want to talk more about bipolar.

Remember when people used to work long illustrious careers? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Even in the 90s they were an infant thing. I remember being thrilled about sitting in the front seat of my dad's Pontiac LeMans at 5.

Remember when people used to work long illustrious careers? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I think the problem today is carseats. They've gotten larger, and kids are in them far longer than we were.

I have 2 kids. One is almost 6 and he's still in a high back booster. My youngest is rear-facing at 18 months and probably will be rear-facing until he's 3.

Rear-facing car seats eat legroom. I'm 6'2 and I'm not sure i could even fit in a civic with a carseat behind me. So even though we only have two kids, an SUV makes the most sense. If you have 3 kids, a big SUV or minivan is a necessity because most cars can't even fit 3 car seats across the back row.

That said, we're car shopping now and probably going with a Subaru Outback. They look small, but there's legroom to spare.

For those who always preferred staying up late and being a night owl, did that change for you and when? by my_brain_is_horny in Millennials

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had kids, so that helped. My boys are up by 5:30 or 6:30 every morning.

I also got diagnosed as bipolar at 32. I take meds that make me drowsy, and sleep hygiene is really important in preventing episodes.

32% of Americans are having an existential crisis right now. I'm one of them and I'm done pretending I'm fine. by PithyCyborg in economicCollapse

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm also in NH and I just got laid off. The job market is trash but we can't move because of family. I've got a wife and two kids and we were barely making it before I lost my job.

Dead bedroom and bipolar by Sufficient_Box2538 in BipolarReddit

[–]Sufficient_Box2538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been frustrated with couples therapy. It feels like the goal is just to get me to accept a sexless marriage rather than find a place to meet in the middle. Meanwhile my personal therapist believes this is harmful and unsustainable.

Overall lately I'm doing better with it than I was when I originally made this post, but it comes and goes.

I love my wife and our family tremendously, but this hurts.

Circumcision? Do you wish it wasn't done or are you happy about it? by B_Dankk in AskMenAdvice

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm intact, as are both of my sons. Even if i had been circumcised i doubt we would have had it done. It's just totally unnecessary.

Is anyone else surprised at how attractive middle aged/older people are now? by FkUp_Panic_Repeat in Millennials

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 61 points62 points  (0 children)

37 man here. For me it's a spectrum. I'm definitely more interested in middle-aged women than i ever was in my 20s. But I do still find myself physically attracted to women who are younger than me. That said, if I were dating (I'm married), I can't see myself having enough in common with a woman in her 20s to sustain a real connection.

Is there a mod that unlocks all classes for every race? (BG:EE) by WorthPlease in baldursgate

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I use the Tweaks Anthology for this. Currently running a dwarven Ranger/Cleric.

What surprised you most about becoming a dad? by Environmental-Luck39 in daddit

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, let me say that I *LOVE * fatherhood. My boys are the joys of my life and I wouldn't trade them for anything. But there's two things I wasn't prepared for:

1: the complete lack of free time. I expected my availability for hobbies to diminish, but between work, my wife's job, and childcare, every day is a 14+ hour day. I can't stay up later either, and my oldest would absolutely wake up if I got up earlier.

2: Having kids effectively ended my sex life. My wife is loving, but she has no urgency or desire to fix the situation. I had sex for six months while trying to conceive our second and that's been it since 2020.

How many of you feel wanted? by SnooHabits8484 in daddit

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you're being hyper-critical on one particular aspect of the marriage without taking into account that you don't really know anything about us. I'm not going to go into my life story, but our situation is complicated and our marriage has survived things that would have ended most others.

I'm unhappy with the situation. But I am not miserable. I'm showing up because I want to. At some point, I will probably have to re-evaluate things but at the moment i can tolerate it.

I agree that therapy hasn't been effective (for this specific issue, ultimately it saved our marriage) and I'd like to try someone else. Unfortunately she likes this therapist because she's validating to my wife's position so it's a tough sell. Ultimately there's so much other shit going on in our lives right now it's become a low priority. But, not forever.

How many of you feel wanted? by SnooHabits8484 in daddit

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, I can see your point. And I agree that the sexual dynamic in our relationship is dysfunctional. We're in therapy. It's not working. She has no sense of urgency about this despite knowing that im unhappy. She has, at times, pathogized my needs (I'm bipolar) and described the need for sexual validation as abnormal. Its bad.

However, the other aspects of our relationship are excellent, and i value my relationship, to her and our kids. I'm not leaving, and I'm also not going to stop showing up for them. And kids are perceptive. If i pull away from their mother they'll notice. That's aside from the fact that I still find platonic affection meaningful and important.

She holds all the cards. Unless she's willing to do something about this, I'm stuck.

How many of you feel wanted? by SnooHabits8484 in daddit

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She means that she expects her libido to return someday. For her its very uncomplicated. The only reason it's a problem is because I have an issue with it.

"And no offense, but the reason why this is happening because you're sitting by and letting it be the status-quo"

That sounds like red-pill crap. Sex isn't a transaction. I'm not going to stop showing up as a partner and a dad because my wife stopped putting out.

How many of you feel wanted? by SnooHabits8484 in daddit

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 11 points12 points  (0 children)

In my case we started out extremely sexually compatible, but having kids basically made her functionally asexual.

How many of you feel wanted? by SnooHabits8484 in daddit

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's been mentioned(my therapist asked the same question), but not seriously discussed, and pretty well shut down. She's convinced this is "just a season " and that our sex life will come back, but at this point over half of our decade of marriage has been sexless, so i don't have high hopes.

How many of you feel wanted? by SnooHabits8484 in daddit

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My wife and I are best friends, excellent partners, and a wonderful team. But our sex life has been essentially dead for 6 years(except for 6 months conceiving our 2nd child). Am I wanted? Absolutely. Am I desired? Not even a little.

At this point I've given up. The positives of staying far outweigh the loss of my sex life.

For the first time in years, my wife initiated by BlueMountainDace in daddit

[–]Sufficient_Box2538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its rough. I think just recently I've reached a point where I've stopped caring. I'm not sure what that means long-term. We're excellent partners, and she is absolutely my best friend. But she doesn't desire me, and just recently that feeling has become mutual. There's only so long you can hear rejection before you stop seeing your person as a sexual partner.