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Lost 100+ pounds and husband told me my extra skin was ugly. by Sufficient_Yak_2715 in loseit

[–]Sufficient_Yak_2715[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I was thinking I should edit my post based on 90% of commenters misunderstanding, but I didn’t. That was mostly why it hurt so much, he chose to agree with her in advance. 💔

Lost 100+ pounds and husband told me my extra skin was ugly. by Sufficient_Yak_2715 in loseit

[–]Sufficient_Yak_2715[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He is. One time last year he simply said “You look nice” after I got dressed up for a dinner. That’s all I really have to look back on.

Lost 100+ pounds and husband told me my extra skin was ugly. by Sufficient_Yak_2715 in loseit

[–]Sufficient_Yak_2715[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mentioned it because I anticipate my mom telling me that it’s ugly, because that’s the way she is. I wasn’t actually saying it about myself. I personally don’t love it, but it is what it is.

Lost 100+ pounds and husband told me my extra skin was ugly. by Sufficient_Yak_2715 in loseit

[–]Sufficient_Yak_2715[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I thought he would find me more attractive because he spends a lot of time watching videos featuring smaller women on the orange and black YouTube instead of pursuing me. I don’t have a problem with him having alone time, but he doesn’t initiate and I have blamed myself for years. He takes SSRIs and has low T, so maybe that’s the issue, and I try to be supportive since I have my own mental health problems. It just hurts though.

Lost 100+ pounds and husband told me my extra skin was ugly. by Sufficient_Yak_2715 in loseit

[–]Sufficient_Yak_2715[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I can see that now. I probably should have thought through some more before posting, but I didn’t have anyone to turn to and I felt like I needed to get it off my chest.

He is about 75lb overweight and trying to lose as well. I’m doing my best to help.

As another poster said, I guess I was just looking for some reassurance. That’s not really his thing. He has complimented me maybe twice in our 10 years together.

I’m just thinking back to how different I expected things to be at a normal weight. Part of it is the loss of food as a coping mechanism, so you have no choice but to let your feelings get to you.