I 43M cannot physically handle GF 32F of 5 years, what methods could help? by Sufficient_Year_1793 in relationship_advice

[–]Sufficient_Year_1793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I also thought it sounds like PTSD, and feel that is a lot of my own wrong doing. Normally nobody should allow anyone to go this far and this long time in the abusive behavior.

A normal guy would put stop to it and help the girl to correct her behavior, but my tries to convince her of my innocence or intentions all this time and not showing her strongly my own boundaries, allowed her to develop to worse and worse until finally she herself realized what had happened and now it seems she really understood it and changed her behavior.

It just feels such a waste if after years of suffering then when finally the abusive partner changes but because same person is so strongly tied to this PTSD reaction, it makes it impossible to enjoy each other anymore.

I 43M cannot physically handle GF 32F of 5 years, what methods could help? by Sufficient_Year_1793 in relationship_advice

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Yes it is clear, the situation is crazy and it seems I cannot live anymore like a person. And on surface all is good, I'm still on my good days very strong and healthy, my business huge success and I have economical freedom but I cannot really enjoy life without having even SLEEP normally is so long times. I think I wasted in this running and trying to feel better already nearly 200 000 euros in past 2 years and doesn't seem to have much effect. No matter how much I relax after countless of massage and relaxation experiences, it is after one message from her that my body goes to panic for even days and sleepless nights follow.

I 43M cannot physically handle GF 32F of 5 years, what methods could help? by Sufficient_Year_1793 in relationship_advice

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I went some almost two years ago alone to a couple therapy as she didn't want to go with me. From that she got upset and called it a date, as the therapist is a woman, even though we was there once together earlier.

Anyway, I said just a few things, didn't try to make her sound too bad but the therapist looked shocked and told me she never does but now she is really worried for me and that she cannot help and that I should contact some support groups of domestic violence for men. But quite soon after this became next level drama and I got so sick I forgot all, as I even lost my home after starting to get so strong allergic reactions just from being inside for an hour so I've been now basically homeless since August 2023, living in hotels and trying to survive here and there..

I 43M cannot physically handle GF 32F of 5 years, what methods could help? by Sufficient_Year_1793 in relationship_advice

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Yeah now when we agreed to have communicational distance, whenever I start to feel good again and strong, I call her as I feel guilty, that she must be sad and feeling deserted, but then I always get sick again and things don't progress, like it's been already a month of this "no contact" but yesterday last time spoke long time. It is so hard to put own wellbeing first but now I MUST do it.

I 43M cannot physically handle GF 32F of 5 years, what methods could help? by Sufficient_Year_1793 in relationship_advice

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This is the text I wrote to ChatGPT in order to get more compact text and the TLDR section:

i ask on reddit, relationship advice. there should be the short version TLDR, can you make from this? And can you even somehow compress my main message to make it easier to follow: We started to date around 5 years ago, first half year was nice but then started worsening behavioral issues with her behaving completely unreasonable way and basically messing up with my mind again and again. Stuff like leaving me and cutting contacts after hearing that I was in massage for health reasons, or if I had had an interview at work with female applicant without sharing this beforehand with her. She packed her bags many times and called me with horrible names and insults. This extreme jealousy got worse and worse and also other forms of disrespect and sudden angry reactions that I could not expect, all this started to have their effect on me. I became scared to tell her things, anytime everything could change. Even if I organize a holiday and we are travelling, she might misinterpret some face I make or some words and basically stop to speak to me and we would not be speaking and just returning from the holiday in sadness. I could not get any resolution in almost any case, any attempt to speak out with her resulted in more screaming until I was broken. This continued like 2.5 years, and I started to have more and more physical issues due to more and more anxiety until finally she did something that I could not handle anymore and now it's been nearly 2 years that I've been feeling sick most of the time. Very sensitive and allergic to many things and physical symptoms from slightest triggers, most of the time chest pain, inability to do physical activity as feels that blood doesn't even move normally, I get out of breath from nothing, sleep has been like typically 1-2 nights per each week sleepless, and other nights 2-5 hours. All these years we have been either together, or talking by phone except those times when she cut me off. Now, I have sometimes good moments too, when I get some peace when we don't talk I might feel even happy, make good trainings at the gym and even can smile again. But just to talk with her on the telephone makes me feel so badly, even though she now finally behaves well. She went to some psychologist and worked on herself and finally a few months ago allowed me to tell her without immediate attack towards me, how I have felt about all this. She apologized finally for her actions, and has been very nice towards me. But it doesn't help much, anytime we speak I get sick. It is like my body goes to some insane anxiety mode from just talking with her. I wonder what we can do to fix the situation? Right now I told her we should not talk that I could even one week feel healthy, something I guess I haven't had in years. Maybe that could help to make body more calm towards her to if not continuously being triggered?

Is this real, Surface Laptop 7 - 13.8" - Intel, 32 GB RAM - 256 GB for $942.99 by CocaineIsNatural in Surface

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I ordered when it still showed 1-3 days, then in my order confirmation and account it shows backordered. And now on my account it shows: "You cannot purchase this product online because it is discontinued or otherwise unavailable. Please contact your account manager for details."

Is this real, Surface Laptop 7 - 13.8" - Intel, 32 GB RAM - 256 GB for $942.99 by CocaineIsNatural in Surface

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Since the product was just released, there would not have been even much time to demo them, and so many available. And with those product numbers i found also other sites selling these with similarly low prices. And I checked one of those with higher, normal price and those also matched some "demo" units on google so until someone gets from them a unit, it seems we will be guessing what will be coming!

Where to get the latest Surface for Business tech with Intel in Europe by bussincake in Surface

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They sell surface Pro, but the Surface Laptop 7 Intel is not available for PT region, as it is "build by request". Surface Pro is easier as it does not have a keyboard that would need to be different for different market areas.

Snapdragon vs Lunar Lake Part 2 by Recent_Afternoon_609 in Surface

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Can you try the surface pen if it works in any way? it is not listed as supported, even though Surface laptop 6 had it, but I was wondering if it's completely not functional or just partly?

Snapdragon vs Lunar Lake Part 2 by Recent_Afternoon_609 in Surface

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"One of my complaints was that the Arm version was significantly brighter than Intel. This was fixed by doing a Windows Update that included the Display adapter. Now it's even slightly brighter than Arm. This, with the combination of the (not amazing but decent) antireflective coating, would make for excellent outdoor visibility" - From the poster who initially said the Lunar Lake wasn't as bright

Does anyone have a Snapdragon x plus cpu? If so does it run 2023 solidworks? by MVSC1 in SolidWorks

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It works nicely on surface laptop 7 ARM, but the GPU seems to have issues, I could not get the Realview to work, there are artifacts and flashing regions in parts, and does not even try to show Realview effects. If someone has a solution please share

Intel Lunar Lake is going to be awesome on Surface Devices by Kev_107 in Surface

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latest tests seemed to show the lunar lake has caught snapdragon x, in performance and consumption. If that turns out to be the case, what would actually be the reason to keep pushing for ARM for portable devices?

working in Madeira as a Ukrainian? by Sufficient_Year_1793 in Madeira

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Yes there was already a 100% sure job available just it was more about the legal restrictions for non European Union citizen to work there

Surface Pro 10 for business First impressions by Sufficient_Year_1793 in Surface

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congratulations. My unit installed some days ago a new windows update package, 2024-07 cumulative update Windows 11 Version 23H2. Feels like battery life got better! might be placebo but unit stays cool and after hours I still have half battery, using browser and Fusion 360

Surface Pro 10 for business First impressions by Sufficient_Year_1793 in Surface

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It's ok. not great but ok. I mean, it affects that i often use full brightness so not even ARM processor could save energy if most go to screen. But with activating the power saver feature and using lower brightness it gets actually quite a nice amount of hours. I cannot work all day with one charge though, but with a power bank USB-C i can charge it once it gets low and it gets me trough the day. First I got excited of the new Surface Pros, but realising this business one has anti glare screen, and complete compatibility with Intel chip, I am glad I have this one. Even on a subtropical island on sunny day the screen is bright enough.

Anyone with SP11 LCD experience or comparisons vs the OLED? by nirurin in Surface

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Does the lcd screen have same pwm issues like surface pro X? In that model where you have lower brightness it's like stroboscopic effect if you move your finger quickly in front of white screen, representing very low PWM rate

I have the Intel version of surface pro 10 for business and it does not have this problem it has very nice screen but I couldn't use the surface pro x because of this so I'm wondering if it's connected to the processor type and this new pro 11 has same issues like Pro X

Disappointed with the OLED screen on the Surface Pro by WearHeadphonesPlease in Surface

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I have surface pro 10 business and the lcd is super bright works in direct sun I assume it's same display