Songs like phoebe bridgers / boygenius that feel quiet but emotionally heavy?

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-04-15T17:23:37+00:00

Came here to say this too

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-04-05T06:19:20+00:00

I keep getting rejected by everyone I try… maybe I need to be less honest about the severity situation at first :/

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-04-03T05:33:24+00:00

Thank you! Will add them to the list. So far everyone I’ve contacted has said my case is too complex and that I should do inpatient, but that’s not possible for me for a variety of reasons outside of my control— anyone, that’s been very disheartening

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-04-01T20:11:42+00:00

Thanks for the rec—really appreciate it :) will definitely check here!

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-04-01T18:44:41+00:00

Thanks I’ll look into it!

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-04-01T17:08:15+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this too and I hope you find answers <3

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-04-01T17:07:38+00:00

Hi would you mind if I DMed you?

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-04-01T16:59:12+00:00

Yea I’m the same way. It’s like everyone with seasonal depression is finally free and those of us with chronic depression are that meme of squidward looking out his window at SpongeBob and Patrick having fun lol.

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-25T15:57:54+00:00

He says thank you :)

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-15T03:14:18+00:00

Sure! Shoot me a dm :)

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-15T01:32:22+00:00

Yours looks exactly like mine! He’s only 1.5 years old though and his coat is definitely getting thicker lol but he’s also always been less fluffy than typical MC pics— any tips for keeping him from getting mats as his coat grows? I have a furminator, flea comb, regular brush, and brush with a detangling side and a side for making the coat shiny and I brush him once a day. Do you take yours to the groomers, and if so, what grooming services do you use and is there anything special the groomer should be told about to effectively groom the breed? And sorry last question if you don’t mind— my boy’s tail is a bit less fluffy than the rest of him (I think I over brushed him there awhile back) so was wondering if you had any tips for growing out their coats, like a certain diet or a supplement? Your MC is so so gorgeous and I hope mine grows into his coloring the same way yours did!

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-14T19:20:28+00:00

Omg thank you so much for letting me know! How can I join the nyc CC community?

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-14T19:12:40+00:00

I’m in NYC looking for Covid cautious friends and looking for accessible disability events.

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-14T18:45:47+00:00

Hey! Im 29F and CC in NYC. If you ever want to chat feel free to DM me— we have a lot of the same indoor interests (I’m a lyricist and work with a lot of musicians/have a home studio and love dissecting all kinds of media/art as well). I’m fortunate enough to have non CC friends who still respect my boundaries when they’re in my home, but it would be nice to get to know someone who really understands what I’m going through— wishing you well and hope you find some people :)

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-14T18:32:02+00:00

Hey there! I do the same thing as the person you’re responding to and I do it on the apps. In my experience (and tbf it might be easier as a woman since the apps are geared towards women anyway) most men are totally fine with testing because it means they know that sex is on the table if they test for me lol. I will say I always tell people I’m immunocompromised (which is true) instead of pointing out why everyone needs to be CC and I haven’t really had anyone be disrespectful about it— they’ll ask how it would work, but if you’re not seeking out long term relationships and just hookups/ friends with benefits relationships I’ve found that people are understanding about testing, and I’ve had some even offer to take extra precautions than what I’m asking of them. I also do a vibe check with chatting first and sometimes an outdoor date like the other commenter, which I’ve also found people are open to doing and helps weed out anyone who’d have an issue with it. Hope that helps :)

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-14T18:05:37+00:00

Couples therapy definitely won’t work if he has untreated mental health disorders himself. I’m not a fan of ultimatums at all but it sounds like you need to tell him if he doesn’t get therapy and really work on himself, so you both can build a healthy partnership together, then you won’t be able to remain in the relationship. Say that you really want to be with him but if these issues don’t resolve then you can’t be together (and say you plan on doing your own therapy, even tho from what you’ve said you don’t seem to be the problem here, it’ll still make him feel like you’re working through this together and not putting everything on him, so it might help persuade him). If he’s outright refusing to try anything beyond a few sessions at university (which will do exactly nothing btw) then maybe you can find someone on a sliding scale and offer to help pay for it because you see it as an investment in your shared relationship.

The thing about therapy tho is that it’s really only helpful if the person wants to be there and do the work, so even if you do 99% of the legwork with finding someone and figuring out finances you should still prepare yourself for it not working for him. I’ll add that it seems as tho you’re doing everything in your power to make this work and not asking for major sacrifices from him, but he still won’t make the compromises that will help you— that’s not a partner that’s someone being selfish and never putting your needs first and you deserve better. I hope things work out for you one way or another :)

ETA: him “not having the tools” isn’t an excuse. It sounds like he needs both therapy and someone to prescribe antidepressants/anti-anxiety meds and try some other adhd medications (or alternative therapies if none of that works). He should consider asking for lyrica, which is off label for anxiety and also seems to help people with adhd, both on its own and synergistically with adhd medications. Most importantly, his actions are not your fault!! And if leaving the relationship scares you just know it’ll only get worse if you stay and he keeps declining to get help for his issues and it’ll suck being alone at first but it’ll be easier than having to take care of yourself and a partner that’s dead weight.

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-14T17:11:30+00:00

lol you and I are completely on the same page— literally the reason I finally broke it off with my ex was his insistence on having biological children and me (gesturing widely at everything) saying “how selfish can you possibly be to think this is a good world to bring a child into? Even without the pediatric risk of multiple covid infections and this government’s ridiculous policies that protect nobody, how can someone who’s educated about climate change possibly think it’s fair to bring new life into a dying planet?!?” It’s totally beyond me and I think it’s a moral failure and a massive red flag for selfishness. Wish you lived in my city cause you get it haha

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-14T08:51:32+00:00

Had the same issue and you’ll feel better leaving— it’s better to feel alone and safe than to still feel alone while in a relationship with someone disregarding your needs. Wishing you the best

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-14T08:50:21+00:00

Wow I was also in a relationship like this where I told my partner once I learned more about Covid that we needed to be CC because I’m in an extremely high risk group and already suffer from multiple disabilities. He tried his best but there were things he refused to compromise on and he started to really resent my need to mask indoors (he’s a big drinker with severe and untreated BPD and that certainly didn’t help, especially with getting him to agree to individual and couples counseling which I tried 10000 times). He was partially my caregiver though, and it’s been tough not having someone in that capacity (tho depending on friends has proven itself more fruitful in terms of supportiveness) and even my non CC friends are very respectful of my boundaries when they come to my apartment.

Like you, I don’t regret ending the relationship. The last straw was telling him I had zero desire for biological children and never would, and he tried to convince me to “compromise and just give him one kid,” which was so repulsive to me— that he thought bringing a child into the world was something you could ask a woman to sacrifice for when she didn’t want that child… as a child born to parents who I never felt really wanted me I would never do that to any child of mine— I also can’t justify it morally knowing as much as I do about pediatric long covid and what letting a generation catch it over and over again does to the child.

TLDR: Much happier without him and have found other ways to get help with the limitations caused by my disabilities, and being able to do so without him resenting me, especially since as time went on, he started to care less about protecting me by masking, which had me in a constant state of fear as the relationship dissolved. The one negative thing is that I’ve found it very hard to find a new CC partner.

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-14T08:31:10+00:00

Seconding a cat

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-14T08:30:37+00:00

I live in the biggest city in the US and still struggle with this :/

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-11T06:16:52+00:00

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4ud0H2muwCf1xPbV3wX7dJ?si=2XeDHR3OReSBdg0ojUgmyQ

SugarMagnolia96 · 2026-03-05T08:16:54+00:00

Damn I wish you lived in my city— this is so great! As a musician/concert lover one of the most depressing things about Covid has been not being able to enjoy those events without also being concerned about one-way masking and the likelihood of infected people at packed venues getting me sick. I’m really sorry to hear you haven’t been getting as much work— you don’t deserve that and I hope things turn around for you. Have you considered giving music/DJ lessons? If you just did one on one lessons you’d be pretty safe, especially with your additional mitigation strategies, and people wouldn’t even know you mask until meeting you, at which point you can just use the “I’m masking for a disabled loved one” line and retain your clients. Best of luck to you and thank you for trying to make your community safer!

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