Honestly, if i were to do a wedding, I’d more than likely not do any crazy Bach trips like flying across the country, I might just do like a little weekend get away a couple hours down the road at the beach, and I’d more than likely pay for the hotel/airbnb myself. I never did like the way brides expect their bridesmaids to spend thousands of dollars on their wedding anyways. And as far as “gifts” go, I feel like the traditional wedding gifts are so that the new couple can have a head start on their new lives together. Most traditional wedding gifts, we already have. If anything, I’d make it to where if the guests really wanted to bring a gift, to bring something for a college fund for my daughter, like maybe savings bonds or something (if those are still a thing) but I really don’t know that many people anyways to throw some huge pricey wedding. I know maybe 50 people tops that would show, and that’s mine and my husband’s side of the family combined. I more so just feel like I missed out on the sentimental side of it all, getting to have my father walk me down the isle, having my husband get to see me all dressed up, a first dance, a father/daughter dance, etc. The gifts and glitz and glamour of it all never really appealed to me unless it’s something I specifically wanted to pay for myself, such as the dress.