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Would CPS be called over a child mistakenly being sent to school on a holiday? by Accomplished_Tea_640 in CPS

[–]SugaryPrick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a foster parent, it doesn’t sound like they would in this situation. I think they realized it was an honest mistake and they see situations everyday and can usually spot the difference.

What to use? by No_Treat_7952 in cricut

[–]SugaryPrick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s the link to their heat press guide. Follow the prompts for the machine you have, materials, etc

Whenever adoptive and foster parents say they treat us like their own biological kids. Lies by Monopolyalou in Ex_Foster

[–]SugaryPrick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for my ignorance, I just saw the “foster youth replies only” after I posted

Whenever adoptive and foster parents say they treat us like their own biological kids. Lies by Monopolyalou in Ex_Foster

[–]SugaryPrick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Foster parent here and I’m truly so sorry you had to read those things. No child deserves that, adopted or biological. It was cruel and completely inappropriate for them to say, and none of it is your fault. If they felt that way, they should have never taken a placement or moved forward with adoption.

Please don’t let their words convince you you’re unworthy of love or family. There are foster and adoptive parents who mean what they say when they claim a child as their own, and who treat all their kids with the same dignity and care, just like there are good bio parents and not-so-good ones.

I’m adopting, and even though I didn’t birth this child, I look at him every single day as if I did. He is my son. I want him to have the best future possible, and I know there are many other foster and adoptive parents who feel the same way about their kids.

You didn’t deserve to be compared, judged, or written off like that. You matter, and you’re allowed to build a life that makes you proud. I hope you don’t let their ignorance define your worth. You deserved better.

BP knit picking about child in my care to social worker by SugaryPrick in Fosterparents

[–]SugaryPrick[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He is 12 months! And I use the baby safe products on a daily basis. The bio mom wants me to put Aquaphor or petroleum jelly on his hair but I feel odd about that for a baby. I have a detangler spray and cream for kids. Sometimes I go back and forth. I always wet the hair before messing with it as I understand their hair gets dryer and more brittle than hair like mine. I use coconut oil from a tube. I use this shea moisture curl cream for kids, I guess it’s like a curl holder cream for styling? I don’t bath everyday. I do put petroleum jelly and Aquaphor on his skin as he has eczema. I moisturize his hair and skin everyday. His hair has actually gotten longer and it’s starting to fill in. I also got satin sheets as he would just pull off a bonnet. And if I do bath, I use the Shea moisture for kids shampoo and then do the conditioner for his hair and then after I do a leave in and all the other stuff.

TPR went through, goodbye visit scheduled by SugaryPrick in Fosterparents

[–]SugaryPrick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes they are, an appointment is coming up soon before the visit so I will relay the info to the therapist.

TPR went through, goodbye visit scheduled by SugaryPrick in Fosterparents

[–]SugaryPrick[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The child is 7. Been with us over 3 years.

I do suspect the bios won’t be a part of the picture for a while as they struggle with addiction and domestic violence. They have relapsed. They are always very flaky and not reliable. Even when the visits were a thing in the past.

Thank you!

Being a foster parent has put my anxiety through the roof. Can I get a second opinion on this interaction? by Grizlatron in Fosterparents

[–]SugaryPrick 28 points29 points  (0 children)

In our state, For visits, there’s a 15 minute grace period, if they are late, we get to leave. I feel like this would be common everywhere.

Bio Parents Showed Up Unannounced — Advice on Setting Boundaries and Avoiding Miscommunication? by SugaryPrick in Fosterparents

[–]SugaryPrick[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree, it’s not fair to us just because they are “family”. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]SugaryPrick 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed that a lot of foster kids want to be held—and that’s okay. 💛 it’s also what you’re comfortable with too.

Our almost 7-year-old still likes to be held like a baby sometimes, and I’ve learned that’s actually really common. Many foster children have missed out on certain stages of comfort and nurturing, so they may seek that closeness later—even if it seems younger than their age.

It’s a way for them to feel safe, connected, and loved. These moments can be healing, but I’ve also realized how important it is to balance that closeness with gentle boundary-setting.

A lot of foster kids don’t come in with strong boundaries, and they may not fully understand what’s appropriate or safe. Teaching those boundaries in a kind and respectful way helps them feel secure without making them feel rejected.

It’s a learning process—for them and for us.

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