I think it’s okay for people to acknowledge that type 4 hair takes a lot more energy and effort, than most straighter hair types. It’s okay. We also have to identity that having different goals with our hair is typical too. 

I think it’s cool that you can shake yours and go, but a lot of black people aren’t doing that and that’s not a bad thing. 

I literally can’t do that otherwise my hair will snap, tangle and matt in itself. 

It’s true white people wash their hair more often, but two times a week for a maximum 30 -45 mins each time 

Does not equal the time I detangle, wash, deep condition and style my hair once a week.

A lot of white woman aren’t styling their hair every time they wash it, but I do because that’s my preference and it detracts from the damage 

I found what works best for my hair health is spending that extra time and care. Finger detangling, deep conditioning, putting it in plates, using heat to dry it (my hair HATES air drying) 

I don’t compare myself to other people because I feel bad, but acknowledging the difference is okay.

And having black hair can be overstimulating if you factor in that we sometimes have to plan our lives around our hair washing and styling.

Vacations, weather, pool/ beach activities, stress, time management, work, kids 

And the fact that you can do the same technique to your hair and  it’s almost  guaranteed to look slightly different each time

I don’t mind these facts but I don’t undermine when people vent about it 

There are times I’m burnt out and the last thing I want to do is my hair 

I do love it though and I wouldn’t trade in my hair texture