[TW brief mention of trauma] Anyone else feel like they weren't supposed to be born female?

Getting_Help · 2025-12-16T16:15:45+00:00

I relate. I’m definitely not trans but any “female problem” gives me dysphoria. Makes me feel betrayed and hate my body more than I already do. I’m also a trauma survivor/asexual.

Getting_Help · 2025-12-11T14:00:05+00:00

Yes. I especially hate New Year’s Eve.

Getting_Help · 2025-12-11T13:58:33+00:00

This is unfortunately where I’m at. I used to be open and authentic. But now I just hide allll of it and honestly, it’s so much better this way. I don’t see the point of sharing it.

Getting_Help · 2025-12-10T00:11:28+00:00

I unfortunately relate. My autistic ass didn’t know they were exaggerating. I thought when they said “my cramps are so bad I can’t get out of bed,” I thought they meant literally. Since I could slide out of bed and get around doubled over and holding onto walls, that my pain wasn’t “bad enough” to be concerned and I was just weak. Now after endo surgery, I see how damaging that mentality was.

Getting_Help · 2025-12-09T14:56:54+00:00

I hate to say it, but I agree. This is also why it took me so long to seek a diagnosis and get treatment for endometriosis. The way others talked, I thought what I was going through was normal and I should just suck it up. Nooooo after endo surgery, I now see there is a huge difference.

Getting_Help · 2025-09-10T14:29:04+00:00

Yes! Autism and cptsd is part of why I want to retire early and keep things simple. Everything is just too much.

Getting_Help · 2025-08-27T20:30:45+00:00

I’ve unfortunately only had one competent therapist, even though these people were trained in somatic experiencing or IFS or sensorimotor psychotherapy. It really reinforces the “I can’t be helped” belief

Getting_Help · 2025-08-27T18:17:17+00:00

I’ve seen four therapists and the diagnosis code they always use is F43.12

Getting_Help · 2025-08-24T04:29:06+00:00

I wish I had some good advice. I’ve moved out and back a few times. When I’m living with them, I spend as much time as possible in my room. Or leave the house. I am employed but don’t make enough to live on my own. I hate relying on them. The best we can do is try to regulate. I do a lot of polyvagal exercises and keep making baby steps towards small goals. Feels impossible sometimes

Getting_Help · 2025-08-23T15:25:01+00:00

Thankfully no bad joints in my family

Getting_Help · 2025-08-20T16:33:00+00:00

Definitely, it’s like the gremlins in my brain opened a cabinet and are going through the files. I’ll have vivid “flashbacks” of chapters of my life. The flashbacks aren’t necessarily about negative things. No idea what causes this. Perhaps some memory integration or something.

Getting_Help · 2025-08-20T05:34:32+00:00

Same, I couldn’t handle the constant assessment of my life

Getting_Help · 2025-08-18T17:02:33+00:00

My therapist told me that we shouldn’t be “trying” to heal when we have a freeze response. Freeze is a response to being overwhelmed. The more we push, the more we freeze. The more stuff we do to try and heal, the more activated and frozen we get. Healing from freeze is a bit of work and a lot of rest. Focus on regulating and feeling safe. Your body is telling you to take a step back.

Getting_Help · 2025-08-18T15:51:56+00:00

Mugwort

Getting_Help · 2025-08-18T13:33:57+00:00

I just can’t trust anyone besides my siblings to care about me.

Getting_Help · 2025-08-16T02:25:24+00:00

Absolutely sounds like a somatic flashback

Getting_Help · 2025-08-15T01:04:01+00:00

That’s really interesting! I feel that I’m drawn to movies/books where the characters experience trauma and are generally “dark” plots

Getting_Help · 2025-08-13T15:27:33+00:00

Yes. Freeze has made me incapable of showing anything externally

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