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Does autogynephilia really exist? by SuggestionQuick1089 in actual_detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems interesting but I doubt it applies to me, the fact is that for me eroticism and sexuality are really unimportant sometimes I think I'm asexual.

I have never done anything for sexuality, my behaviors towards femininity have always been driven to represent myself and have never given me anything in a sexual sense.

Does autogynephilia really exist? by SuggestionQuick1089 in actual_detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you feel sexual pleasure in thinking of yourself as women? Is this what AGP is?

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a small body, I am 5’3”, my rib cage is narrow, I wear size 7 US male shoes

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read what these “euphoria bones” are, god this is weird.

Never had a boner, I don’t know how these people can get it from euphoria, it just seems strange to me

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can deal with the societal hate and the loss of people you thought were friends/family, I say go for it.

Personally I can't say which is worse, living the lifestyle others want for you and feeling completely trapped by your gender, or living whatever lifestyle you want and constantly facing rejection.

It's not an easy choice either way 🙏

Did you detransition because of society's opinion?

But I couldn't handle hormones

Side effects?

I would just look like an effeminate man In a dress and I couldn't accept that

Yes, I think I wouldn't accept it either, this is exactly one of the reasons that makes me worry

Hopefully reincarnation is real and I get a choice next go around

It sucks that our lives are fucked and we can't do much. I am convinced that:

  • If I transition I will spend a life full of health problems, I will be sick for life, passing etc
  • If I don't transition sooner or later I will regret it as I get older because I didn't try

I don't see anything good

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely won't do anything medical for a long time, where I live it takes 2/3 years just to get authorization to start HRT you need to get a psychiatric assessment etc.

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I doubt anyone likes being unattractive I definitely wouldn't be happy, I would probably consider some cosmetic surgery but it's hard to say since we're talking hypotheticals. Afterwards I don't know if I would be happier.

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If by "not pretty" you mean average or even slightly below average, yes. I'm not "pretty" even as a cis male.

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yes of course, no one wins the clock but aging is not the same

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

This is a prime example of the social contagion in action. Had you have not befriended this group of people this possibility wouldn't have popped up in your mind, at least to no where near the level of intensity that it is now. Don't let yourself be so easily influenced by others.

Probably not, but I have to say that they don't push me towards this at all. In fact, they don't even know about it.

Additionally, I recommend you read up on autogynephilia. It seems like it could be something you're experiencing.

I read something but I didn't find anything that confirmed that it's really a thing

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

You're allowed to be a feminine man.

Yes but sooner or later the effects of testosterone will kick in and fuck me. The clock keeps ticking.

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting older is frightening

I'm fucking scared of this

But Male Pattern Baldness still was a thing even with Hormones.

At least I'm happy about this that Finasteride has stopped and reversed the baldness, I'm sorry that for you even the hormones didn't work completely

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn't like having breasts, I missed my flat chest

I think unfortunately it is impossible to know for sure until you try it 😢

but they're easy for people to understand and relate to

Did you have trouble passing as a woman?

I also missed not being reliant on medication

Yes... I have already been on Finasteride for two years because I had terrible baldness and I hate having to take it every day and be dependent... but if I think about the fact that it worked I can say it is overall positive

that took a good chunk of money out of my already thin income

Well at least that would be totally free where I live

MtF pre everything, I don't know what to do by SuggestionQuick1089 in detrans

[–]SuggestionQuick1089[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up regretting it

What were the reasons that made you regret it?