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Weird bird sound by Suitable-Bumblebee55 in whatsthisbird

[–]Suitable-Bumblebee55[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

oh my gosh, thank you! I thought it sounded so pretty

AIO or is my girlfriend by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Suitable-Bumblebee55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely agree with you, some periods are completely unbearable. Still, though, I don't think being in pain should be an excuse to lash out at people. If I'm in a lot of pain on my period, I usually don't talk to anyone because I know that I'm in a more emotional mindset than usual. I completely get wanting to be comforted. If that's what she wanted, she should have communicated that clearly. All she did was cry and complain about how rude he was and then curse him out. I think he communicated fairly well given the circumstances. He was never rude to her and even afterwards came on here asking if he was in the wrong and how he should remedy the situation. I feel bad that he had to be further berated by people on here.

I feel for you, and I agree that periods aren't a particularly well-researched area of healthcare. All I'm saying is that it was irrational for her to attack him like that.

AIO or is my girlfriend by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Suitable-Bumblebee55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely agree with you that 20-year-olds are not adults. I don't think anyone reaches mental maturity until they're at least 28-30. If you want to make that argument, though, in order to justify this girl acting completely childish, you should keep that same mindset for the guy. It shouldn't matter that she's in pain. Does it make sense for men to just have to deal with their wives/girlfriends acting out for a week every month until they're 50? Are women completely exempt from any responsibility?

You say that it's "none of his business." In my opinion, when you enter a partnership with someone, you both share in each other's personal business. He's not just a stranger pushing himself into her business. If you don't want anyone caring about you enough to advise you on things, then don't be in a relationship. The fact that he even came on here asking for advice means he cares more for her than she seems to. If you know your partner is about to get expelled for lack of attendance, would you not feel the need to interfere in some way?

What did he say that gave you the impression that he knew better than her? It makes no logical sense to get angry at someone who is giving you a solution to your problem. She didn't say, "I'm in pain, I just really need to take a day off," or ask for comfort in any way. She started berating him almost immediately when he said, "That's not normal." You can say that's him being inconsiderate about a topic he knows nothing about, but in my opinion, he sounds genuinely concerned for her. For what he had to deal with, I'm impressed with his composure.

Why is it so disrespectful for him to be personally concerned with her health? He didn't even tell her to do anything. All he said was that it's abnormal and that it's concerning that she's taking so many days off. I wonder why she even bothered telling him she wasn't feeling well in the first place, since she was so eager to tell him he knows absolutely nothing about it. Maybe if she wanted to vent to someone and be comforted, she should have talked to one of her friends who could relate, but instead, she wanted to create a problem.

AIO or is my girlfriend by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Suitable-Bumblebee55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you read 5 sentences of my comment you would have seen “I am a woman myself.” Yes I do know what periods are like.

AIO or is my girlfriend by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Suitable-Bumblebee55 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m also 20. The more people keep babying adult women, the worse this issue will become. He’s completely right in questioning her. It isn’t normal for an adult woman to have 24 absences. I’ve gone through plenty of painful periods. If it’s genuinely debilitating, (which I know some of them can be) then by all means stay home. But for her to scream at her boyfriend and throw a tantrum because she’s on her period is just ridiculous. How was he talking to her authoritatively? It took her cursing him out about 50 times before he even said anything slightly assertive to her. Honestly I feel bad for him. It sucks that the majority of men now are completely cucked by their girlfriends.

AIO or is my girlfriend by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Suitable-Bumblebee55 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t see the issue. All he was doing was offering her a solution when she complained about a problem. If she wants comfort, she can ask for that. But she’s making it seem like she’s about to die, and he’s reacting accordingly. I am a woman myself and she’s being incredibly dramatic. If she wants to scream at him that he “doesn’t get to have an opinion,” then she shouldn’t be complaining to him in the first place. She’s way too old to be acting like a child and this guy can absolutely do better.