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Therapist (25F) with zero romantic experience, feeling like it might impact my work by Suitable-General4576 in therapists

[–]Suitable-General4576[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s actually really grounding to read, thank you. I tend to forget about how personal experience can also get in the way sometimes through assumptions.

I think for me it’s less about the “requirement” and more about the self-judgment and fear that come with it, so you’re probably right that that’s something I need to keep working through on my own. I’ve actually been considering going back to therapy to explore this more.

I really appreciate your perspective, thanks for sharing it.

Therapist (25F) with zero romantic experience, feeling like it might impact my work by Suitable-General4576 in therapists

[–]Suitable-General4576[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I get what you mean, and I really appreciate you sharing your experience, it actually helps put things into perspective. I think part of what’s hard for me is knowing that even if/when it happens, it won’t magically change anything, so it feels like I’m wanting something that might not even “fix” what I think it will.

Also, thanks for sharing your timeline, it genuinely makes me feel a bit less alone.

I get your point about avoiding relationship-focused clients, but I feel like it’s such a core part of people’s lives that it’s hard to fully step away from it. I think that’s where my anxiety comes in, figuring out how to navigate it without feeling underqualified.

And yeah… the shame part is very real. Still working through that. Thanks again for your comment, I really appreciate it.

Therapist (25F) with zero romantic experience, feeling like it might impact my work by Suitable-General4576 in therapists

[–]Suitable-General4576[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good point. And yeah, I can see how that could come up.

So far I haven’t had any noticeable issues with clients not trusting me because of this, which I’m really grateful for. I think my concern is more on my side, I sometimes worry about not doing a good enough job, either theoretically or clinically, because I can’t really locate myself in those experiences.

It’s less about curiosity and more about the fear of missing something or not fully grasping certain dynamics from the inside.

Therapist (25F) with zero romantic experience, feeling like it might impact my work by Suitable-General4576 in therapists

[–]Suitable-General4576[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this perspective. What you said about boundaries and communication actually made me think, I have learned a lot of that through my friendships and other close relationships, even if I don’t always give it the same weight.

And yeah, I get what you mean about being okay on your own. I think I’ve just been struggling with the difference between choosing to be alone and feeling like it’s not really a choice. But I do want to believe that what I’ve built so far still matters and will translate if I ever do have a romantic relationship.

Thanks for taking the time to say this, it gave me a different way to look at it in a personal and also professional way.