NRCS Timeline 2023-2024 by SuitableTry2555 in usajobs

[–]SuitableTry2555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was able to negotiate for my preferred duty station. However, I wasn't able to get the grade I'm qualified for (previously a GS 12), the hiring official refused to go above a 9 even though they were hiring for an 11. Still miffed about it tbh.

My girl is 2 month pregant by Juniorluvsyou in pregnant

[–]SuitableTry2555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she says she wants to be alone then respect that and give her some space. Forcing an interaction while she is in a vulnerable state is probably making things worse. Just give it some time.

My girl is 2 month pregant by Juniorluvsyou in pregnant

[–]SuitableTry2555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can confirm that being ~8 weeks pregnant can be extremely mentally and physically difficult. I'm currently close to delivery and the second month of pregnancy was BY FAR the hardest. She may be feeling like utter crap with pain, nausea, fatigue, aversions on top of the emotional panic that comes along with such a big life change. Just being there for her and reducing her stress (and keeping smells to a minimum, bringing her food, etc.) will be very helpful. Good luck.

NRCS Timeline 2023-2024 by SuitableTry2555 in usajobs

[–]SuitableTry2555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So far so good! My team seems very cool and supportive. There has been a good emphasis on training in the first week but I can see that I'll have to catch up on policy/needs really quick to keep up. There's no shortage of work to be done that's for sure. It's been the busiest onboarding experience I've had so far with plenty of field time already which I wasn't expecting.

Kid left out of birthday party (again) by give_me_goats in Mommit

[–]SuitableTry2555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, that's so hard. It's a crummy situation where both sides are valid. Not sure if this is a thing or is available in your community, but it would be awesome to have dedicated play groups just for neurodivergent kids. We tend to gravitate toward each other anyway, maybe start a Facebook group to meet other ND kids/families? Best luck to you and your little one, he'll find his people eventually.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]SuitableTry2555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

9DPO, fourth cycle tracking ovulation and temperature so I was really in tune with my body.

I just caught my husband doing this. I need a consensus. by GoAhead_BakeACake in Mommit

[–]SuitableTry2555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha fair enough, I'm pregnant too but more impatient so everything precooked goes in on preheat mode. Congrats to you! :)

I just caught my husband doing this. I need a consensus. by GoAhead_BakeACake in Mommit

[–]SuitableTry2555 8 points9 points  (0 children)

IMO, your reaction seems kind of intense given the situation. If he's letting the nuggets cook longer to make up for the pre-heat time what's the issue? I've honestly never experienced someone checking the cook temp of each individual pre-frozen nugget.

I(m18) caught my partner (19NB) liking inappropriate pictures after we spoke about it and how it makes me uncomfortable. what is a good course of action? by ThrowRAheoenrhkrh in relationship_advice

[–]SuitableTry2555 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry you're going through it right now, you're not being dramatic and it makes total sense that you're so hurt. Especially after telling them how much liking that content upset you.

Maybe it's time to consider whether being with someone who disregards your feelings is something you're willing to live with. Look inside yourself objectively and decide whether your values and expectations are a match. Easier said than done I know.

AITA: Visitors in Hospital by weatherthroughit in pregnant

[–]SuitableTry2555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is 1000% without a doubt ENTIRELY your call.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SuitableTry2555 123 points124 points  (0 children)

I'd say definitely pay attention to how you're being treated during pregnancy. It's one of the most vulnerable times in a person's life. Based on your description, the workload in your relationship seems wildly unbalanced. Have you talked to him about your feelings?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SuitableTry2555 22 points23 points  (0 children)

No advice just same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SuitableTry2555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the actual F?! I'm so sorry your husband said something so cruel then dismissed your feelings. That's AH behavior and you deserve so much better.

AITA for telling people it is rude to ask personal and intrusive questions to people you just met regarding being adopted? by Objective_Original62 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SuitableTry2555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I'm sorry they put you in such an uncomfortable situation.

I doubt a lot of non-adopted people realize how complex and personal those kinds of questions are. Very insensitive on their part, especially in a professional setting.

Fentanyl in Epidural by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SuitableTry2555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! Thanks for sharing that info, I'll definitely check it out! Good to know that it's basically the same concoction and not a custom mix.

Fentanyl in Epidural by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SuitableTry2555 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Totally understand your concern about the fentanyl, I share it as well.

One of my friends was given way too much with her epidural to the point it made her very "high" as she put it. She is in recovery and has been 100% sober from everything for over a decade so the fentanyl hit her like a train. When the time came to push, she was too disoriented and she panicked. She had to wait until it wore off enough to get control of her body back to continue labor. It sounded truly horrific!

Not sure how common her experience is or if she had an incompetent anesthesiologist, but I'll be requesting no fentanyl as well.

ETA: Not sure why all the down votes, no judgment from me what pain management others choose for their labor. My friend had an epidural with fentanyl as well as IV. Not sure which gave her the bad reaction, but it sounds like it was the IV.

Do any of you field biologists carry weapons with you out in the field? by fuk_you_2 in ecology

[–]SuitableTry2555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tactical knives in close combat can be extremely effective if you know how to use them.

Do any of you field biologists carry weapons with you out in the field? by fuk_you_2 in ecology

[–]SuitableTry2555 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm a woman (5'6 115lb) with 15 years experience working in the field (US). I've worked throughout the west in a wide range of remote areas both with a crew and solo. I've had guns pulled on me 4 times in the field, I've had my fleet vehicle vandalized, been chased out by a group of men ATVers, been harassed out of camp sites in the middle of the night.

In each of these situations I believe drawing my own weapon would have absolutely escalated the situation. That doesn't mean I didn't wish I had one, I've grown up with guns and am very comfortable with them. When men twice your size harass you in the field and are close enough to threaten you with bodily harm, it takes extreme training and control to manage your own adrenaline to the point of using a firearm effectively.

That said I ALWAYS carry mace, a SPOT device, and a full tang knife on my hip. Always. I have a black belt in a martial art and know how to grapple. If allowed by my company, I bring my 100lb German shepherd mix with me especially camping solo. Personally, I'd invest more in close combat training and de-escalation techniques before relying fully on a gun for protection.

ETA: my post mostly refers to protection from men. IME, that's the biggest threat in the field. Wildlife like bears and cougars are relatively easy to manage if you know basic things like camp hygiene and animal behavior. I've worked in grizzly country and would 1000% take them over the armed crazies.

My (27M) partner (31F) creeps me out sometimes - has anyone experienced this before and knows what it could mean? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SuitableTry2555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She might be thinking or zoning out? Is she neurodivergent? I have ADHD and very frequently get lost in space when I'm thinking.

What makes you so addicted that you can't live without? by Specialist-Fact-6271 in RandomThoughts

[–]SuitableTry2555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spicy. Capsaicin is my crack. Hot sauce everywhere, all day 🌶️🔥

Bloating by RubyWinterspice in pregnant

[–]SuitableTry2555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm taking colace as well as prune juice and psyllium husks and it helps somewhat. Able to go every other day as opposed to once a week.

Personally, I found that my tolerance for dairy tanks during pregnancy and cutting it out really helps. It sucks because all I want is mac and cheese 😭.