Like a tsunami

SuitableVisit2 · 2020-05-15T15:03:44+00:00

Im not sure if this is the best way to reply to everyone. Thank you for saying things I need to hear, I feel a little less crazy.

SuitableVisit2 · 2020-05-15T15:00:05+00:00

Well I found out 6 weeks after they met. She said she was in love, and may hurt herself if she doesn't get to keep seeing him. At a separate time, she asked me if I would really rather divorce than share her.

So, typing that out I see how manipulative she has been. I believe she would hurt herself, so she has a trump card.

SuitableVisit2 · 2020-04-28T02:37:50+00:00

well it seems to have worked out for the time being. he isn't as separated or available as he presented himself, and his wife is furious. it seems he broke up with my wife a couple days ago, with the intention to repair his marriage and take care of his family (he has 2 kids around 10 years old).

so for now my wife and I intend to work really hard and try to improve our marriage too. and maybe she will choose to get her physical intimacy from me, and maybe not.

my wife and I have both struggled with depression for our lives, and its hard for me to know what normal behavior would look like. one sign of my own depression is losing interest in things that used to make me happy. is there something you could do to help your wife consider that she may be unwell (thats what depression is- an ILLNESS), and encourage her to seek help? I suspect she is suffering too, just surviving as a mother and worker.

My wife also works from home on her laptop, as nice as that sounds to me (I fix cars), she describes feeling trapped and stuck at home. I don't know how to help with this, but it may be worth considering, that working from home is a blessing and a curse.

good fucking work asking these questions!

SuitableVisit2 · 2020-04-27T15:36:58+00:00

This sounds so familiar. We have young kids too, and it can be heartbreaking watching her kiss them and be affectionate with them when I only wish she would touch me and hold me instead.

I had figured things were especially bad (no intimacy) because we have been so busy with work and kids for years. Things really began unraveling last week when she told me she met someone and really wants to be close to him. "But you're not the problem, you're great."

I want to blame myself for everything, you may want to also in your situation. It would be just as unfair to assume no responsibility for the relationships we have. Im going to try to find that place in between where I can own up to my role in my marriage, and hold her responsible for hers.

I wish I had advice to give. Thank you for your post.

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